A losing strategy in dating Russian girls.

A losing strategy in dating Russian girls. Some ladies take time to read the English part of the blog and tips for men, which is rather nice of them. They really try to learn and understand what is going on and how to get the right guy. Here is one tip from a Russian girl that arrived via comments to the recent article Dating tips by Elena Petrova. It’s about the well-known strategy advocated by dating gurus, “Throw it against the wall and see what sticks”.

According to our commentator, she’s seen guys attempting to use this idea in dating Eastern European women — with disastrous results.

Innessa: I was shocked by the behaviour of American men chasing Russian girls

Thank you Elena for this article! Very helpful, not only for western guys, but for me as well.

I’m a Ukrainian woman who recently moved to United States, and I was a little shocked by American men’s behaviour while chasing girls.

I worked in multinational environment – half of the working staff was represented by Americans (young single guys of different backgrounds), the other half by Ukrainian, Russian girls and women (most of them recently moved to the US).

It seemed to me, most of American guys were amazed by beauty of our girls and were willing to start relationship with them, but no one succeeded, which was very strange for me at the beginning.

But then I understood why.

All of them had absolutely no courting strategy, everyone tried to ask as many girls as possible to a date. “Throw it against the wall and see what sticks” strategy.

Our ladies figured it out at once, got offended and all guys were “marked” as unreliable womanizers.

Personally I know a couple of guys, who were really in love with particular girls, but even those ones kept putting eggs in other baskets.

As if it was more important to them to get at least one girl, than to win a woman that they really wanted to be with. Crazy!

Needless to say, all of them got rejections and a bad reputation among my natives.

Now I know why it happened – due to your article. Cultural differences do play a huge role.

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Michael Robinsin
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Michael Robinsin

I am in love with an United States naturalized Ukrainian lady who immigrated through a lottery 20 plus years ago. She and I are both divorcees with grown children, she in her late 50’s and me, 65. We were seriously dating for a year when i implied we should get married. After that she began to act bit differently, coming jealous, unreasonably jealous and finally breaking up with me saying she could never trust me. Of course I did everything I could to convince her that I was trustworthy, and never having cheated on her or even consider cheating on… Read more »

Tim
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Tim

I can’t even figure out what it means? I guess I am out of touch. Sounds caveman like.

Dave R
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Dave R

I don’t think it works with western girls, either. At least, it didn’t for me; I don’t know how many initial emails or contacts I made with women on western dating sites (and sadly a few brief forays into PPL sites) before I ended up here, but I certainly didn’t get many dates out it (or even online many conversations), and certainly didn’t get a relationship. Whereas when I saw my now-fiancee’s profile here I was captivated right away, kept looking back at her profile when she was off the site for a bit, sent her a follow-up message, and… Read more »

Me
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Me

I think woman feels the attitude and respond accordingly. If you treat her as the One, it would be hard for her to resist you. Its female psychology

Dennis Nilsson
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Dennis Nilsson

I think this is the answer. The “Ukrainian / Russian” ladies I have been talking through by email have not been credible. None of them want show themselves on webcam, to prove they are real, and do not cheat. They tell me that their cameraphone is broken, or to old. Then I loose interest. I do not want to waste my time in conversation with an scammer who, after 6-12 months of conversation, asks for money for her sick mother or child. Usually when I google her pictures, I find them on several dating sites, with different age, names and… Read more »

Tom Condon
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Tom Condon

What I will write is not known by most people. Americans are under tremendous pressure, like Russia by the Bolshevics, and there is much mis-information. Those who look past the news, entertainment, and re-written history can find another history, what people knew in the past. The Bolshevics were not Russian, but agents of very wealthy British, German, and American people who want to shape society, and be dictators over the earth. Before the Bolshevics was the power of the house of Rothschild, taking financial control over Britain through chicanery, fomenting aggression against America. The Jacobins in France. Secret societies. These… Read more »

Tim
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Tim

Not sure about the cultural difference of this “throwing everything against the wall and seeing what sticks”. I worked in Ukraine for most of 3 years. The Eastern European guys were mostly even bigger players than the “westerners”.

Regarding sites, this one seems to be one of the more legitimate. It is not pay-per-message but I have had a few experiences in the past where I got an EOI from what appeared to be an interesting woman only to have her not respond once I upgraded to be able to send and receive messages.

Finn
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Finn

Does the hunter/prey system also go for connections that have not been made yet? E. g. you find an interesting girl, send her a mail and get no reply. Does she expect you to send a lot of mails before she sends her first reply or does she consider you being daft for sending her a lot of mails, that she does never send a reply to?

How many mails should you send before you stop?

I do not think we have ever had the hunter/prey system here. At least it must be many years ago. So i need to ask.

Kind regards

Finn

Paul Rose
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Paul Rose

I was shocked too lol. Dating a person at work is a fatal error. Flirting can get you fired. Even a pattern of “looking” at a girl can get you fired. Absolutely anything that makes the person uncomfortable, when reported to management, is bye bye for you AND it’s on your record for life. Sexual harassment lawsuits are usually successful and have big money settlements. So business will often fire a person immediately to show a concerned and quick remedial strategy. And it’s not just the guys that are at risk. Even guys, when they are dumped by a co-worker,… Read more »

Innessa
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Innessa

Hi Paul! I’m the one who wrote that comment. I had no idea that I could file a lawsuit. Well I suspected that I could, but I’m new in the country and dont know all the laws. And also I am used to such behavior of man, because in my country such attention from guys (even at work) is not punishable, even encouraged. Guys in my country have to be persistant to win a girl, its kind of tradition. What he should not do – is to run after more than one girl )) this is not cool)) from girls… Read more »

Robert
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Robert

Dear Innessa! I already write this upwards before read what Paul Rose, and you commented. But now copy + paste here, where fit more. There are the cultural differences. And both sides responsible. What FSU girls say true, and unfortunate. But their side: for the most NO: means no, not to say it/ try it again several dozen more times “to prove” you have serious intentions. (Mainly when you consider crazy western legal system, where any repeat attempt became VERY easily sexual harassment, kick out from worksplace, blacklist, bad reference etc…) So even if a western man avare of this… Read more »

Innessa
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Innessa

Thank you Robert, I see your point and somehow it explains “western” dating model. But really, what’s bad about American girls? Too much bitterness in your words. Around 10 years ago I dated a guy in my country. And once he said to me that he sees all women as wonderful creatures, even a bit higher than men, because they give birth, bring beauty to this world, etc. So many years passed, but I still remember his words, so much it stroke me. Really, how much this attitude differs from seeing a girl as piece of trash, a body with… Read more »

Paul Rose
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Paul Rose

Yeah buy nobody sees girl’s as a hole. As in, gimme a break. Girl’s are toys. The best toy of all toys. They walk, talk, dance. They eat dinner with you, accompany you on summer walks in the park.

We can dress them up. Put sexy shoes on them. Style their hair and color just the way we like.

It’s all good with girls. What’s not perfect about girls? Their voice, smooth skin, lovely hair, warm red lips, beautiful body. Girl’s are the besty and guys love them!!

Paul Rose
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Paul Rose

Hi there Innessa! How are you? Phone calls? Married men? Ummm, see a lawyer hun. You have a lawsuit here, it’s for sure and a company can not harm an employee that files a lawsuit or they will get their head cut off. The rules on these things are real, and severely enforced. Even talking rudely to an employee that has filed a lawsuit can get that person in prison! A lawyer will tell you more if you chose to consult one. In the U.S. there is no sex at work…period. You talk to everyone as if they are all… Read more »

Paul Rose
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Paul Rose

There is no sex, race, religion ect…in the workplace. What you do on your personal time is your own business but be careful of what you say on-line. Everything is archived and powerful computers are writing a profile on you which is accessible for a fee.

They know all my sexual fantasies, that’s for sure lol. And they know lots more too.

Robert
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Robert

There are the cultural differences. And both sides responsible.

What FSU girls say true, and unfortunate.

But their side: for the most NO: means no, not to say it/ try it again several dozen more times “to prove” you have serious intentions. (Mainly when you consider crazy western legal system, where any repeat attempt became VERY easily sexual harassment, kick out from worksplace, blacklist, bad reference etc…)

So even if a western man avare of this expectation: will it change anything?

James Bond
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James Bond

In America, men try very hard not to offend, or bother women.
Because it can be dangerous, and reflect poorly on ones social reputation. This has been ingrained in them from an early age by modern western feminism.
Women from more traditional cultures perceive this as weakness in these men.
But I disagree.