We’ve been getting a lot of comments on the recent post about 3 dating sites I can recommend.
One guy posted a very detailed story about his encounter with a lady from Elenasmodels. One thing that surprises me often about men is that they are willing to travel to the other end of the world to meet the right woman for them, but unwilling to actually get prepared to make it a success.
Dating tips for success
The most dangerous thing I see that guys do in dating Russian and Ukrainian women is that they follow the tips they got from other western guys — whether it’s about relationships with females in their own countries or abroad.
Let’s just see what is going on there.
Tips on dating western women
One thing that gives away following tips for dating western ladies is the talk about “attraction”. The concept of attraction is huge in the western pickup (hook-up) culture. But these tips are absolutely wrong for dating Eastern European women.
You see, western countries are going through the stage of casualization of dating. Hook-ups are cool, seeking a partner for marriage is looked down upon like a type of stalking.
It is a completely different approach in the Eastern European (Russian, Ukrainian) dating culture. Hook-ups are looked down upon, and seeking one’s “second half” — a partner for life — is idolized.
How could tips for dating western females in the approach of casual hook-ups work for a girl who is seeking a lifetime commitment? The girl looking for a casual hook-up will feel attracted to different things in a guy as compared to a woman who is seeking a partner for life.
Tips on dating Russian, Ukrainian women
The advice that you could be getting from guys in forums is also something to be wary of. I know lots of guys give you dating tips along the lines, “Don’t put all your eggs in one basket”, which means, you should string along several ladies and come to visit them all.
What is going to happen?
Most likely, what happens with 99% of these cases: All these ladies will reject you, because you are not looking like a potential partner who seeks “his second half” to any of them. You are NOT devoted.
So, you’ll be back to the dating site and will be chatting to more girls.
That’s the dating tips that guys who get paid commissions by PPL sites readily dispose.
Because the more girls you date through PPL sites, the more money they will make.
On Elenasmodels, I only read success stories from couples who say, “We knew from the start this was special and we met soon”.
There are no stories from guys who say, “I was writing to 10 girls, narrowed it down to 4 and went to meet them all, and I fell in love with Anastasia and she fell in love with me as I was checking them all”, — NO, this never happens.
Go and check success stories on EM — read at least the last 10.
The proof is in the pudding
I could have told you that this approach, “Don’t put all your eggs in one basket”, is the best — and don’t even move until you get 3 women to visit and you have talked to them for 6 months! But that’s NOT what works for our successful couples.
What works, they meet quickly and only the two of them. And they talk a lot on messengers prior to that, many pairs spend hours daily chatting. It’s impossible to do it with 10 women, don’t even try.
When you marry someone, you are putting all your eggs in one basket. That’s the type of commitment it requires.
Yes, you are going to spend money to visit the lady without knowing whether it will work out or not. That’s the risk you take, when you pick one person out of billions available to you in the world. That’s why it’s no use to wait for months and invest hundreds of hours in communication (rather invest these hours in a second job and buy tickets to see your online girlfriend sooner). Invest more hours daily in communication, make it intense — it’s the intensity of it, not the number of months you’ve been chatting for, that makes the difference.
If you want to fail, then wait for months before meeting and visit several women
Waiting for months and visiting several candidates in one trip — that’s a surefire recipe for a disaster!
Another surefire recipe for a disaster is to listen to guys who haven’t been successful on their first meeting with a woman. If a guy made several trips to Ukraine or Russia and struggled to succeed, he was doing things wrong — and possibly, he is still doing things wrong. He may be just this type of person that females dislike. You don’t know whom you are listening to.
Women are not falling in love with what you do, they are falling in love with the type of person you are. That’s the truth.
There are some things a man in love is “supposed to do”, according to the Russian (Ukrainian) courting ritual. You have to do these things like you are ticking boxes on a form. You don’t know these things, but I do. And I am telling all about it in my book VIP Coaching Manual for men Dating Russian, Ukrainian women.
You don’t have to read it before you spend thousands on a trip to Russia or Ukraine, although it’s a wise thing to do.
Because to marry the woman of your dreams, you need to make 100 steps right. If you make one step wrong, you have to start all over. If you have the map of these 100 steps, it’s easy to make them right.
If you don’t have the map — or worse, you are following a wrong map (like tips for dating western women), then you have an extremely high chance to get it wrong.
It’s up to you.