Sometimes I hear from guys who had a horrible experience with pay-per-letter dating sites and they wonder what would be the best way to meet eligible Russian singles. Some of them asked me whether I think it would be a good idea just go to Russia to meet single girls there.
Should I just go to Russia if I want to marry a single Russian woman?
Let’s just leave Russia alone for a short while. Let’s just talk about marrying a lady from your own country.
What do you think would be the best way to do it?
You need to meet a single person, who hopefully is also interested in settling down and starting a family, and then build a relationship, propose and set a wedding date.
Do you think you would need to move some special place within your country to do it? No, you just need to locate the right person and then you can decide where you are going to live, if you are not in the same city. If you are in the same city, you need to decide which area suits you both better.
The most important thing is to meet the right person. And it’s unlikely to happen if you just go to a certain city for a tour. It makes sense to you, right? You don’t have any advantages being a tourist. If anything, you have disadvantages. You are in the area just for a short time and females are wary whether you are just seeking a quick hook-up, of course, if they are looking for something serious. The ones who are looking for a quick hook-up, they will be OK with a tourist.
You see, it makes sense to you when you are thinking about your own country. But when you are thinking about Russia, suddenly you think that marriage-minded females (especially marriage-minded ladies who are eager to drop everything and move to another country) are running around like wild beasts in Russian cities.
In fact, if you were thinking so, you would be right, because there are no wild beasts in Russian cities. And there are no giant hordes of Russian females wanting to marry foreigners either.
Even moving to a different state or city within the same country is a huge step for the majority of people. How large is a change for someone to move to a country where people speak a different language, what do you think?
I know most people living in the first world countries believe that foreigners from less developed states dream to immigrate there. But it’s not true. If you travelled a lot, you would know that people in general love their countries and wouldn’t not want to move abroad. Unless, of course, there is a war in their country and their lives are at risk. In this case there could be millions of refugees, as we see in many areas of the Middle East or Africa.
But Russia is not one of these areas.
So, if you think that a tour to Russia would make it easy for you to meet marriage-minded Russian singles, it certainly won’t. To do that, you actually need not to just visit but to move there to live. Then you will have the same advantages as Russian guys, who have the demographics and the cultural paradigms on their side.
So, what’s the best way to meet marriage-minded Russian singles?
Basically, all single Russian females are marriage-minded. Marriage is the meaning of life for them. They have been brought up that the meaning of life for a female is to get married, have kids and raise a family. They absolutely believe it’s true. It’s true for them.
But the vast majority of Russian singles, as I said, don’t want to move to another country. They have very close and tight family ties and wouldn’t want to leave their families.
It is only a very low percentage of single females, around 1% or less, who would consider a relationship with a foreign man. Even though they have very little chance to meet someone in their own homeland, due to demographics, they still don’t wish to consider dating someone who lives in another country.
One reason for that is propaganda. If you talk to regular Russian people about international marriages, they will tell you straight away: “It’s a bad idea! The mentality is too different.”
They probably won’t tell you as a foreigner (because they would be afraid to offend you), but they talk to each other about it, that foreign husbands only seek Russian wives to exploit and mistreat them. Such is the image painted by the Russian media in the attempt to stop local girls from marrying foreigners and moving abroad. Yes, of course, the propaganda machine is portraying things in a bad light on purpose, but people believe what they see on TV.
Mothers of my Russian friends married to Australians called them in the middle of the night to ask if they were really OK and not just pretending, after watching such a TV program. The mothers were so terrified, they thought the women lied that they lived well, because they were afraid of the husband! Seriously. This is what they show on Russian TV.
So, it’s usually only ladies who know someone personally who married a foreigner and moved abroad that decide to consider such an option. The majority of population in Russia is extremely suspicious about marriages of foreigners to Russian singles; the general notion is that females won’t be safe in such a marriage.
This is another factor to bear in mind when thinking of a tour to Russia as a way to meet a potential partner. You are really better off first connecting with someone who you think is suitable and then meeting her in Russia. If this doesn’t work, then you are able to realize your initial plan of just touring Russia with the view to meet a partner for a relationship.
But you have at least 50/50 chance that it will work. Besides, after talking to a lady for a few weeks, you will have a first-hand experience of dating a Russian woman and answers to questions that you wanted to know about life in Russia, culture, and so on — whatever you want to have answers to. Isn’t this knowledge worth something?
So, you are not losing anything if you first start talking to Russian singles online. But you may win and make your life way easier if you wish to meet someone marriage-minded, because it doesn’t cost you anything to chat online with women from Elenasmodels.
You can talk for as long as you wish and about any subjects, and it doesn’t cost you any extra.
And it can definitely save you a lot of money and wasted effort as compared to simply going to Russia and trying to meet singles who are open to emigrating and will also be able to trust a tourist that he is not just after a quick hook-up.
Just think about it logically.
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Dear Elena
Two questions about relocation:
In your experience:
1. How often happens the guy change location, and emigrate into an FSU country, after get married?
2. Is there a reality a slavic girl accept a frequently changing “home”. I mean when that is clear if she get married with xy guy they will change cities, and countries probably several times per year?
(For example one year in Austria, half in Argentina, quater in UAE, quater in Malaysia, etc…)
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Is the personal consultation available, if sbody did not plan to go forward into personal matchmaking?
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The full matchmaking program sounds for me the ultimate last (best) chance when every other way failed. And by the way require total focus, where can`t exist in the same time: work, or studies, or projects, or hobbies. I am not ready for that.
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Elena, I wish to make two points in response to this article. I have moved for a short time to Kirov and I am meeting Russian women by engaging in everyday tasks. For example, I met 3 different single Russian women just as a consequence of getting my very own local library card with my photo on it! I have also noticed that Russians are very friendly but contrary to the American stereotyped definition of friendliness, Russians only need a modicum of engagement. Yes they do not naturally smile in public and yes they may strike you as cold and… Read more »
Roger, if you plan to live in Russia, yes. If you do lot plan to live in Russia, but simply visiting, then going to Russia hoping to meet a woman who will agree to become your wife and move abroad with you, when you are there as a tourist, it’s a different story and a different setup. My point is men living abroad would be much better off simply talking to real Russian singles wanting and willing to move abroad permanently, who speak English, to find out more and learn how to communicate with such women, while being still in… Read more »
This is always good to consider. I think that this article is common sense but it is easy for people to make the mistake of thinking otherwise. This is the same advice you will get from people who have experience finding their love abroad. After all, isn’t it better to marry someone who loves their culture and can share it with you? Absorbing new culture is a wonderful way to grow. Also, it’s possible to love two countries (or three!).
Hey Elena, I understand everything you said here, but then how come there were so many Russian women-Foreign men encounters/ relationships during the recent FIFA 2018??? Those visiting fans were also tourists, but according to various news sources there were SCORES of couples formed during the world cup, and according to an RT poll 57% of single Russian women were OPEN to having relationships with visiting foreign fans. This is CONTRARY to your figure of less than ” just 1%” Russian women. Throughout various news sources and eyewitnesses it has been CONFIRMED that there was LOTS OF MINGLING with foreign… Read more »
Adam, The event of the World Cup was some frenzy of a party. It’s not happening today, if you go to Russia. I don’t mind your just buying a ticket and going. I just say it’s stupid to spend this money, when you can simply check your options and start a relationship online while still at home, for just $100. Learn about women, their values, what real Russian women are really like! Find out their dreams and aspirations, why they are doing what they are doing. Get some experience. Once you have established contact with someone and think you have… Read more »
I understand everything. So basically what you mean is, that Russian women were only open to hangout with foreigners during the world cup, right? So if a foreigner visits Russia when theres NO world cup, he’ll get treated negativity by the local Russian women. So this is what you’re trying to say, I understand:) I am a man who lives life on LOGIC. Logic is EVERYTHING to me. So basically, a foreigner is only “attractive” to a Russian girl if he has a FAN ID around his neck??! BIZZARE. A foreigner WITHOUT a fan ID, without a football Jersey is… Read more »
Adam, your logic is marvelous. I don’t like arguing with people, I like agreeing with them. That’s, apparently, a very valuable quality in a woman! (Read today’s post.) What I am saying is your sources are rubbish. There had never been that “great attraction” to foreigners from Russian women during the World Cup as you quote. It was probably less than guys would get in any other country during such an event, and it was the same type of girls that would hang around visitors from another country. Logical enough for you? The whole story about the great interest from… Read more »
But they also showed LOTS of Russian girls in interviews, who were hanging out with foreigners. Especially many news reporters in central Moscow found so many such couples, and even interviewed them! They interviewed sooo many young Russian girls on live TV/ YouTube while downtown Moscow, and the girls openly confessed their attraction for Arab and Mexican/Latin men!!!! The reporters/bloggers even found soo many such couples hanging around central Moscow & interviewed them, those Russian girls were more than happy to have scored Mexican/Arab boyfriends. I’ve seen all of that. And what are you saying about Russian women being threatened… Read more »
Adam, absolutely!
Go to Russia and tell us how it went, mate!
Can’t wait for your report!! 😉
My advice to men on this site is to connect with a lady on this site, talk to her on skype or Zoom and than go travel to Russia/Ukraine/Belarus/Moldova and experience her home country! I have travel to all three countries and loved the experience! It opens your mind to a different culture! For me it was very enjoyable!!! Don’t worry too much about the language barrier. At the hotel and at most restaurants they speak English. You can book the flight and the hotel on the internet, no problem! There are ATM everywhere and they will supply you with… Read more »