This is not a survey but simply a question. If you have something to share, please do. Most often when we ask a question on the blog men hesitate to answer, for some reason. Everyone likes to read about other people’s experiences but doesn’t want to share his own.
And that’s OK, too.
If you were looking for a tip on how many women you should be talking to, you will find it via the link.
In fact, we know how many people each person is talking to, it’s possible to see how many contacts have been made. But how many of these kept developing further once you began talking one-to-one via Skype, WhatsApp and other messengers?
How many ladies do you think it’s possible to maintain a meaningful communication with at the same time?
Experiences
Most people say that once they started communicating with several people, they lost the desperation to make every contact work. On Elena’s Models, you are not limited by the cost of communication, since you are able to send and receive as many mails as you with and chat as much as you want, for no extra charge, it’s included with your Ultimate, Platinum, or Gold membership.
Ultimate and Platinum members enjoy other perks, such as talking to as many women as they wish and priority listing in search results.
What we find is the hardest part for people is to ensure the other person opens up about themselves. Probably, the easiest way to make it happen is to open up about yourself. Then the other person relaxes and feels free to be more open as well.
Multiple communications allow you to compare how women communicate and express themselves. However, don’t discount the ladies who seem to be a bit reserved. They may simply have little experience in online dating and are unsure what is expected.
- See also here some reports on differences in relationships with western women and Slavic ladies.
Let us know how many from your communications that you have taken off the site continued! Comment below.
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I find it difficult to write to more than one or two at a time. This is a limit of my disability and social skills more than anything else. I suppose if I were as extroverted and socially oriented, there are many more women I would like to be writing to as well. Elena, I have good news as I have found a competitor that is exposing the PPL scammers and the corrupt practice that really harm both Slavic ladies as well as Western men!! Of course I applaud their efforts as I have always appreciated the truth telling you… Read more »
Roger,
Yes, Russian women understand the concept of introverts and extroverts, it’s the type of pop psychology that women love. 🙂
The word “intimate” is probably not the one to use; “intimate” in Russian means the sex act. They use the actual word “intim” to refer to sex.
I have been a member of this site for several years, off and on. I have met and had relationships with 3 different women in that time. I have learned a lot. It is indeed necessary to communicate with several women until you filter through and find the ladies of serious intentions. I am sure it is the same for the women from their perspective. But there tends to be a common misconception that only the western men can be insincere, manipulative, and opportunistic. I could detail my most recent experience here with a Belarusian woman, which was extremely hurtful,… Read more »
I’m not currently a paying member of this site. I did pay when I first joined a few years ago. And I’ve renewed once or twice for the 3 month plan, if memory serves. As with other dating sites, the initial meeting (digitally) is definitely awkward. Reading someone’s bio, written by them, is not very trustworthy. And I suspect vice versa for the woman on the other end. I’m confident in what I believe and what I want. But communicating that to a potential mate, is not as easy as it sounds. People are complicated regardless of what they say,… Read more »
Kacy, thank you for the insights!
I had a gold membership for three months, during which I sent a lot of EOIs and almost used up my allotment first letters, but never was talking seriously to more than two or three women at a time. One woman who I thought I’d hit it off with pretty well in letters stopped talking to me after one Skype call. Still, I thought I was getting somewhere, so I upgraded to a platinum membership when that ran out… and shortly after that a woman who I’d exchanged one letter with earlier then sent a follow-up to a few weeks… Read more »
Dave, congratulations on your engagement! It usually works this way: You start talking to several people but sooner or later it’s only 1 person that is clearly “The One” with whom things seem to develop without effort and bring you much joy.
I’m 60 years old. What are my chances of finding and holding on to a much, much younger woman?
Edward,
How much is “much, much younger”?
If it’s 20+ years, check this post:
How to marry a woman 25 years younger.
I am 30yo and I put age of my partner 40-55, but currently I am talking to 60-65yo men and I dont have any problems with that, if they are interesting people and good looking. But if they start to teach me how to live…. yawn. Or they really look like my grandgrandfather… Sorry, not my story. For what you need much younger woman? Be clear with your intentions and realize, may be you need not dating online site, but site of other… mmm… theme?))
Hi Elena, I have been on your site for a very long time. In fact I first started to be interested in Slavic Ladies before the internet. I think I still have a video tape from those early days. That was how we tried to make judgements about prospective partners. I find that I can only communicate with one lady at a time and yes I have read your advice about starting with a few and eventually ending with one, but it feels to me like cheating already. I know, perhaps I am old fashioned. I can empathise with one… Read more »
Jim, looking for a partner for 20+ years (you say you started “before the Internet”), it sounds like you have wasted your life dreaming and trying to save on child support. Was it worth it? You did it the way that you thought was right for you — and the opposite of what I recommend. Your choice, your consequences.
But what a waste of 20 healthy, young years that you could be potentially happy with a gorgeous loving woman by your side.
Elena, I agree. What a waste of a life but please do not be too quick to judge that I am at fault or that I try to avoid my responsibilities. Not every man is a bad man.
Jim, I know how easy it is to find a marriage-minded lady on EM for any man. It’s hard for women to get a man, not the other way around, because whether there will be a relationship or not depends on the man. Girls are READY. So, I just can’t help but think about all these women who put their lives on hold FOR YOU and you not doing anything to eventuate a meeting, and I am feeling their pain.
At the time I am talking to one lady. After a few tries and misses, I have found someone I really like and have high hopes! So guys, don’t give up! …After she accepted my EOI, I wrote her on 8 March to wish her a good holiday…We have written to each other nearly every day since. we are both still active members on the site but are writing off site now. When we met, she wanted to know the usual things. what i was looking for etc…I told her I wanted to have a successful experience on EM. I… Read more »
Dear Elena, I became a member of your site on May 15th this year. I had a look at quite a few different ladies profiles in the first few days. I sent out some EOI and also recieved a few EOI. I had some brief message exchanges and found it to be quite a new experience. On May 23rd I had an EOI from one lady in particular, her profile was very sweet, plain and direct. Her photos were all very natural and not in a made up fashion magazine look. Her photos certainly represented her well in the content… Read more »
Scott, that’s exactly what I recommend: Start talking to several people and you will quickly discover that 1 person stands out… it just works this way!
I’ve had a few contacts but it’s really hit and miss. What I have been seeing a bit more frequently is getting EOIs despite not being a paying member. Usually I will purchase the 1 contact option to talk to them and see how it goes if I get an EOI. This can also be quite random as well. I had one contact where the conversation was going quite well and then suddenly she stopped writing or logging in. Another I got her email address as she was going to turn off her profile and wanted to keep talking to… Read more »
Josh, I think there is a financial requirement to be able to bring a foreign woman on a fiancée visa to the USA. I think you need to earn more than that. Check the website of the USA immigration department.
Alright good to know I’m just wasting my time then. Will shut down my profile as not to waste anyone’s time.
Josh, if you are not intending to go through with a real life relationship and partnership, you will be wasting women’s time, as they are looking for a real partner.
To chat online years for no outcome, there are PPL sites.
I am intending to go through with it but if I don’t make enough it would be impossible. The only other option would be to only message those already in the same country to avoid having to deal with the visa process all together since they already live here.
Josh, have you tried Tinder? It’s an app for dating locally.
Well, you need to earn more than that or have a co-sponsor (or have assets worth at least 3 times the requirements). On one hand, the requirement is quite low (100% of poverty level for the size of your new household), and a full-time job at slightly over minimum wage will let you make enough for a household of two (a little over US$20,000/yr), so I’d think you ought to be able to meet it with some effort. On the other, you do have to meet your intended fiancee at least once in person, and that’s going to be a… Read more »
Thanks for the advice Dave I did actually re check my assets and for last year it cam out to 19600 so not as bad as I thought. Affording the trip isn’t too big of a deal neither is the paper work just that whole asset total thing.
When I offer my product, I talk with a lot of people. 1000 people read my landing page, 500 read it till the end, 200 leave their contacts, 80 make an order, 10 pay. You think “perfect!” but at the end 5 refuse and send it back, 3 are not happy enough and leave bad comment, one lost it because he couldnt valuate what he got and just 1 is happy and thankful Thats a conversion) So to get a better result you must 1) improve your product and represent it better. OR/AND 2) find more places to promote it.… Read more »