Sometimes we forget that simple things work the best. I see a lot of men on our site spending plenty of time searching, researching, reading women’s profiles for hours, days, or even weeks — and then writing only to 1-2 women.
Why Too Much Analyzing on a Dating Site Is Not Effective
There is no point in doing that. You would be better off having a garage sale or spending a couple of hours listing things you no longer need on Ebay, collecting a few hundred dollars, and buying Unlimited Platinum, which gives you the ability to date every woman on the site, with no extra costs.
Sending an EOI only takes a click.
By doing that, you can email or send an EOI (Expression of Interest) to every lady who seems OK, and then see who answers back. Then you can read their profiles and start communicating with women who seem more in line with what you are looking for. (This is what many women are doing.) It is an effective strategy, based on the proven principle that “dating is numbers game”. Talk to enough people, you will find your match.
Unlimited EOI’s are included with your membership package. If the girl doesn’t answer, move on. (Normally you will get 1-2 positive responses on 10 EOI’s sent.)
Expanding your numbers and saving efforts by sending an EOI first, which is non-binding and only takes 1 click, saves you hours of reading and the anguish of waiting for answers from 1-2 people who you think may be right for you.
Otherwise, you are spending way too much time researching, and don’t actually put effort into dating.
How People Write Profiles on Dating Sites
In their profiles people often write what they feel others want to hear. Conversing with real humans brings out the genuine personality.
Are you one of these guys who select women for contact based on their profiles? While you can usually pick people who are definitely unsuitable, it’s hard to say who will be right for you.
Truth is, you have no idea — people try to show off and tell things in their profiles that they feel other people want to hear.
The girl with a limited information in her questionnaire may happen to be your best match, but you can miss her listing with overanalyzing.
Lots of people registering on a dating site for the first time don’t know what to say in their texts — and those are the ones who could be your best bet.
You cannot figure out a person by reading their profile. You actually have to talk and connect with the real person.
Why Dating Is The Answer
Simply date and you may become another success story on EM.
It’s just the way it is:
- If you date, you will find someone who is right for you.
- If you start dating and give up, then you will not.
Sometimes I have a feeling that scores of men on our site don’t really want to find anyone. All they want is to look at pictures and dream. Maybe have 1 conversation with a woman and for months exchange emails, but never see each other without the computer screen in between.
This is what comes strongly from the ladies, they are frustrated that the only people who seem eager to visit are sex-tourists, who are booking full schedules of entertainment for their 4-5 week vacations in Eastern Europe, and the rest of the men are either too scared to visit, or simply want to date online without stepping outside of their homes.
- Don’t you really want to meet someone who can give you a hug and a kiss?
- Don’t you think it would be nice to go for a walk in a park together holding hands?
- Do you see yourself snuggling in front of TV watching your favorite show?
Then, why not actually date? Finding a partner is simple. It starts with you saying, “Hi!”
Read also:
- 7 types of online daters
- 5 approaches to finding the one
- 5 reasons I am not contacting you — Dating tips for women (by an American man)
- Why the best time to start your search is now
Hi, I’ve been talking a great women I met on your site everyday for 2 hours a day through skype and what’s app for about 4 months now. She was telling me how dating works in Russia. And said it takes a lot of time and money to win a Russian woman’s trust. She say’s it take about 6-12 months to do it. And also went on to say that in Russian once the relationship starts it’s very common for the man to have to wait 6-12 months before they get intimate. Is she just testing me or this true?… Read more »
Michael, It’s a lie. 🙂 The great majority of couples in Russia have sex on the first or second date, definitely within a few weeks. I would say such “princesses” aren’t worth of time and effort, if she thinks this is how she wants to be courted. Women like this will get offended for nothing, and you may feel like you live constantly walking on egg shells. It tells of insecurity and definitely baggage. It may be she had fallen a victim of a sex tourist in the past, and tries to prevent this from happening to her again. Sex… Read more »
I do know that everyone is different. I have always rushed into a relationship because I don’t like being alone. I like to get to know a person. I know that meeting in person is better than long correspondence but sometimes that is what needs to happen. Every situation is different. I hope to meet the woman of my dreams soon.
I was in Odessa and Kiev last month and I heard the same things from both agencies and girls there. Many men will write letters and enjoy the idea of a beautiful girl talking to them but will never come! Some men fear that there is war there. I can tell you that in the far Eastern part of Ukraine this is true. But if you meet a girl from these cities and she likes you – she will take a train or make arrangements in a major city far from any conflict. Other than that it is like any… Read more »
Mike,
Thank you for your feedback.
Always good to hear what really happens, as media tends to exaggerate.
One of my friend’s sister is visiting here right now from Ukraine (Kharkov), which is in the Eastern part but not in the conflict zone, she says everything is good there. She had to take the train to Kiev to fly to Australia in July 2015, but now I have read in the press that planes are already flying again from Kharkov to Europe.
P.S. See the map of the country and how small is the conflict zone here.
I can only agree. The point is to meet people and see what happens. There is a lot of emphasis on getting married, and a lot of this is driven by the ladies, I might add. It’s okay to just meet, to spend time together, to hold hands and walk in the park without worrying too much about the future. Yes, I’m interested in finding someone special that I want to spend my entire life with, but I don’t mind finding a good friend. I’ve made one amazingly good friend among the women on this website. I had a very… Read more »
Love this blog, and the website seems to go well with it…….
lots of good advice from Elena,
she seems to know what works !
I absolutely agree with Elena! Well, I had long-distance relationships and it was so hard to get know more about each other through emails and messages. All we needed was one dating. One real communication can help to understand is it your soulmate or no. I wasted my time with this guy. When we met each other it was so obvious that we are so different…such a pity