With so many women joining Elena’s Models daily, it’s no wonder some men cannot easily decide whom to write. However, the question, “How many women should I write?” is rather personal.
Think of finding a soul mate as a similar process to finding your dream job. If you decided you are ready to make a change, how many resumes should you send out? How many ads do you need to answer? Not only this is dependent on who you are, but also such factors as luck and timing come into play. But you surely cannot rely on luck. It’s also true that as soon as you put a lot of effort into something, luck turns your way.
Basically, the answer is, “Write to as many women as necessary”. I know, it’s ingenious. But really, if you were determined to find the right fit, wouldn’t you keep looking until you found exactly what you were looking for? Anything else, long term, is a compromise.
If I were to start dating online today, I would start with making the best photos I could. It’s worth spending 2-3 days on taking hundreds of photos (preferably with a help of a trusted friend) before writing to women or men. Then I would select 5-10 best pics and load them into my profile. If I could do a nice 30-45-second video, I would, but if not, video could wait. (On elenasmodels.com you can upload up to 15 photos and 1 video.)
After that, I would go through the whole database of people who had logged in within the last 30 days and picked the ones that meet my general criteria (mostly age). Then I would add the ones that seemed OK to my Favourites, and start reading their profiles. I would remove the ones that I didn’t like straight away — for example, saying something in their profiles that is offensive of prejudiced. After that I would pick about 20 profiles that I liked the most, and wrote a personal letter to each, based on what is said in their profiles.
I know this may seem like a lot of work to just simply write a letter. Why not just send a generic letter to all, they may not even respond?
- First, generic letters are always instantly recognizable. You probably know straight away when you are getting one. So, women know that, too.
- Second, with a personal letter you have a much higher chance of getting a positive response. I personally do not feel a generic letter deserves a response, albeit a positive one, but if I get a genuine, personal letter, I am always compelled to respond.
I probably would limit my letter-sending to 20 people for the first time, so that I can timely answer all responses. You will see how many responses you are getting after a few days, if you keep sending 10-20 letters a day. Yes, it may sound like work, but seeking is a lot of work! It’s not a walk on the beach. (Walks on the beach will follow once you have found the person you are looking for!)
My goal would be to get minimum 3, maximum 10 perfect candidates as my correspondents. Why can’t you write simply to one woman? Because with the only correspondent you become desperate, and start making mistakes, which will affect the long-term perspectives of your relationship. Talking and dating online is no cheating! You can do it. You can even become friends with all the women you talk to, no one said you should not!
So, even if I liked one person the most, I would still be talking to others. I would make sure I always had 3-10 candidates that meet all my requirements. And when necessary, would start again sending 10-20 letters a day to newly registered members. After exchanging a couple of letters, it helps to start chatting online. This helps you to understand women better and what they want, which means the more women you are talking to, the more experience and understanding you gain.
To be able to do it, the best package on Elena’s Models is Platinum membership, because it gives you unlimited contacts (you can write to as many women as you wish). Gold membership allows you to contact 50 women, which may be OK for some people and not enough for others. If I were serious, the price difference is not that significant to not get the ability to write to any person on the site.
So, here you have it!
Now you know how many women you should write to.
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In response to: Michael on August 24, 2014 at 7:48 pm That was a very informative article. My questions are what do the ladies on Elena’s Models want to know about a person in the first couple of messages? What are the most important things they are looking to learn about a man in the beginning? What things should a man not get into until after a few exchanges? Good questions. First, start with your profile. Make sure it’s positive, informative, and respectful. Not too long; 1-2 paragraphs for each section (interests, personality, message, partner requirements) will be enough. Women… Read more »
Your chances are greater if you have a definite plan to visit a woman’s country in the relative near term (i.e. within 3 months). If you plan to visit within a year you will have to write many more women while enduring higher rates of disconnected communication.
What do you think about dating a woman who is 5 years older than you? I’m 23 and I got a message from a cute girl who is 5 years older than me. I mean, my dad is 10 years older than my mom but not sure if otherwise would turn out to work. Also, what if we don’t share the same religious beliefs? Because I’m a Christian and in her profile it says: “n/a”
Do you think it would that be a problem? For example, say we have kids. How would you raise them, etc.
You just got a message, which you haven’t even answered, and you already worry about religious upbringing of your kids? 🙂
I love that you personally reply Elena. Yes, I’m kinda thinking of that lol I actually sent the same question to the help desk but I really really would love your honest thoughts 🙂 *Here’s the actual message* Do you think it would be a good idea to return the EOI to a very cute lady who happens to be 5 years older than me? (I’m 23 and she’s 28) I ask you this because I don’t want to engage in a conversation and give her hope when the age gap could end up being a problem. So, what’s your… Read more »
Right now your job is to talk to as many women as you can. Try to figure out what they seek, want, aspire to, can you even build a conversation with them? Do they even like you pass the initial email exchange? Can you get on Skype, do you like what you see and hear? Learn to date. You are probably going to screw up first few connections anyway. Once you have 5-7 candidates you managed to keep, start comparing.
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Love it! Thank you Elena!