Talking to women on the blog, I was surprised at how different they were. There are obviously diverse kinds of female online daters, and a man would be wise to approach them differently.
Each sort has its distinct features and would respond better to a certain type of communication. The 7 types of online daters exist, but they can be fluid and the same person can progress (or regress) from one to another.
1. Prey
There is a large group on female online daters, especially the Russian-speaking ones, who believe in the tale about a “man-hunter”, and “woman-prey”. This theme, surprisingly, seems to be the cherry of Russian Cosmopolitans and Mary Claire’s, as well as hundreds of websites, advising women “not to chase men”, otherwise their relationships are “doomed”. Ladies living in this paradigm want guys to “chase” them, because they believe that only then it’s possible to develop a quality relationship that will last a lifetime.
These girls are easy to please, as long as you keep “chasing” and make her feel special. There are, probably, not many other men around, because she never writes to anyone herself, and often takes long to respond. But if you get through the surface shell, she will be a very faithful and dedicated partner for life.
2. Yes-girl
These women answer “Yes” to every EOI or mail, without bothering to check your profile. You can see that by the fact that she hasn’t popped up on the list of people who viewed your profile. Afterwards she may not even respond to mails or can simply disappear without a notice.
If you see that a lady has responded “Yes” to your EOI or sent you an EOI without viewing your profile, you know she may be a Yes-girl. If you really like her, go ahead, write or send a chat request, just realize: she may never answer again.
3. Cold feet
These daters seem to be too eager and give away too much and too quickly, but then, when the time comes to meet or make a serious decision about moving from the online to the real world, they don’t deliver. It’s like they are trying to convince themselves how serious they are.
If a woman seems very eager, try to cool down and ask questions whether she had given a thought how to meet, if you both like each other, or what does she know about life in your country, or how her family will react if she were to move overseas. It is these things that often pop up and may halt the relationship later on.
4. Checklist girls
These girls are very serious. They have a “list”, and they are looking for a man who matches it to the “T”. They may be so ingrained in their lists that they are including it, in great detail, in their partner requirements.
If you see a long list of requirements in a woman’s profile, she may be the checklist girl. If you match her list, contact may work wonders, as most likely, she doesn’t have many suitors. You may want to modify your profile before contacting her, as she may reject you in an instant, if you do not match her checklist.
5. Angry
We all know this online dater. Her profile is telling about the things she doesn’t want, rather than what she wants. She feels she had been unfairly dealt with, and is suspicious of everybody’s motives. She genuinely wants to find someone but her profile is so scary, a rare man will venture to contact her, and she becomes even more upset.
I cannot, in all earnestness, recommend contacting these women. They may be very genuine but it will be tiresome.
6. The pretty non-responder
There are these girls with totally gorgeous photos, who upload their profiles, go through the personal interview, log into the site regularly but never respond to anyone, or almost anyone. It’s like they are waiting for their “prince”, and don’t feel the need to respond to “mere mortals”.
Numerous photos that are “too gorgeous” may be the indicator that the girl belongs to this class. There is basically nothing you can do to make her respond. She is capricious, and feels she has the right to be because of her prettiness. If you send her a smart and funny personally written “just for her” email straight away instead of an EOI, you may score some extra points.
7. Casual
This is my favourite type of female online daters. They might have arrived to the dating site by chance, or on advice of their friends, who were successful. They are open and fun to communicate with, with no pre-written letters or scenarios, they just are going with the flow. They are not afraid to contact men themselves, and happy to reply to EOI’s and mails. For them it’s one exciting adventure.
With them, the most important is to be genuine and go with the flow. Don’t pressure them too much. They want to enjoy not only the result but also the process itself.
All 7 types of female online daters are here to meet someone, although your approach should be different. Knowing what type of personality you are dealing with will help you to structure your communication better.
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Zaretuza! Are you trying to impress us with your flowery words, and mastery of the English Language? Be advised that most of what you wrote would not be completely understood, by everyone here. (no insults to anyones intelligence intended) and the way Elena has explained it is perfectly adequate. So a narcissistic explanation by you is not necessary. Explaining in laymans terms is always much better for all.
ZARETUZA!
Well said my friend! Enjoyed the read!
There is one other kind of woman- the “gold digger”. This woman is very interested in a man who can provide her with creature comforts.. but she may also be a scam artist as well and will base the relationship on how much money she can get out of you. She may tell you that she cannot afford the cost of translations- and usually asks to go off site right away. Money is her motivating force.
There are many other labels that can be given. My list is based on years of experience and the key types of online daters. I can agree that there are women who want a wealthy environment and put this ahead of everything else. I do not see anything wrong with this, if this is what she genuinely wants, just as we have men who are looking for someone 30 years younger with a “hot” body. There are always people whose intentions are not 100% genuine, both men and women, and they exist across all categories, online and offline. . P.S.… Read more »
Just wondering if anyone showed this to the ladies. Maybe they could recognise themselves and prevent future loss of a relationship.
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Hi Shevy, actually, one lady commented on this (in the Russian blog), and said she was a “checklist girl” but still, she wants her checklist and doesn’t want to change her approach!
Last year I had an experience with a girl from this site. Our communication started in August 2013 and rapidly moved from this site to our personal emails, and then via Skype. Everything was fine at the moment! We talked to each other via Skype every single day! Some days even two or three times per day! We were in that flow for more two months. We had arranged to meet us in her hometown in Lisbon Portugal in November 2013 (she is an Ukrainian woman living in Portugal). All was perfect to say the least. We even had constant… Read more »
David, these things happen sometimes. This is why the sooner you meet, the better. Also, until you meet it’s actually not real.
Totally agree with your last point Elena. The sooner you can meet from a website such as this the better. Until that time it’s not real. Love the blogs you are posting!
Thank you Shane! 🙂
This is really a very useful article. Thank you!
This is really a very useful article. Thank you! Will discuss it today with my friends)
all perfectly described, thank you)
Interesting
It’s an interesting classification of girls
Very interesting reading!
Thank you for sharing, Elena! 🙂
Online dating is more akin to a minefield, other less noble types:
– Scammers
– Pro-daters
– Borrowers of model photos
– Hookers trying their luck in a different area
Sandro, except for borrowers of model photos (which is uncovered instantly with the first meeting on webcam), all these types weren’t born by online dating. They existed long before and you can meet them in a local bar, both men and women. Guys who will say anything just to get into a girl’s panties, girls giving you wrong phone numbers after you bought them a drink. The recipe of success is always the same: talk to multiple people, know who you are, know what you want, listen, compare, be real and realistic. But talk to multiple people and find the… Read more »
Really true types. But may be sometimes it’s not so. I believe if a woman came to the site, she is looking for someone special, and she is waiting for special attention from him.
Checklist girl look like the best, mainly when it is meet with the checklist boy desires.
I belive for the long term relationship need sthing like the checklist.
If there is no similar opinion, reaction for action, desires about family, common recreation/ hobi activities, that will not work for long time.