Some guys don’t get a response from a woman, either positive or negative, after sending an Expression of Interest (EOI) through the site or when they messaged the lady. Does it mean she isn’t interested?
Most often, if the lady didn’t answer you within a week, it means she isn’t interested
Women prefer to avoid sending a rejection, particularly, because they loathe being rejected by men. Ladies are very sensitive when they send a guy an EOI and he rejects it. Some women say that outright: They review all EOI’s but only respond to men they like with positive messages.
On the site, we advise ladies to respond to all incoming messages, but they find it easier to simply not answer.
Thus, in majority of cases no response means ‘No”.
In some cases the woman may have never seen the message. Some men and women register and never login to the website again. Their profiles get approved and they start receiving mails, but they may have never login again to check them.
Or it may happen people checked their messages for a few days and then stopped doing it. Check if the lady logged in to the site recently through viewing the time stamp in her profile, when did she login for the last time (today, yesterday, etc.).
Is it possible that the lady is interested but doesn’t respond?
It may be that she is unsure what to respond. Or she forgot to click the button to answer.
If you really liked this person, you may try to send an email in addition to an EOI (if you started with the expression of interest), but don’t put too much hopes on that.
Some girls may feel overwhelmed with getting even 10-20 messages and they only respond to a few first guys and then stop answering. It happens with men the same way, so it’s not only one gender that behaves in this particular fashion.
Of course, it would be great if all people answered to every person who contacted them, but it’s probably an utopian thought.
- In short, don’t hold your breath if the lady you really liked didn’t answer. Most likely, the silence means lack of interest.
- But if you are really interested, you can try again. If there is no answer the second time and the lady keeps logging in to the site, then you know the answer is ‘No’.
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In my experience, it definitely is worth making at least one follow-up to a lady you’re really interested in. There was a lady here back in spring of 2017 whose profile really intrigued me. I sent her a message, she wrote me back, I wrote her back. Then I didn’t hear from her for a few weeks, but kept looking back at her profile, so decided it wouldn’t hurt anything to send her a follow up email. A few weeks after that she wrote me back. And we’ve written or talked on video or instant messaged or been together in… Read more »
Wow Dave, what a great story! Excellent motivation 🙂
So what does it mean if you send an EOI and the woman responds positively and then does not return to the website for 2 weeks now? I had 3 women respond “yes” in a 24 hour period and all 3 are absent for 14+ days. And this has happened several times before, just not all at once.
Fidel, it means the woman hasn’t been to website for 3 weeks 😉 It’s just a regular dating site like Match.com or eHarmony. People register, start communicating with other people. Often they get in touch with a few people quickly and start chatting on Skype or WhatsApp straight away. At the same time she said ‘interested’ to your EOI, she could be chatting to 3-4 guys on Skype. People get off the website as soon as they realize they met someone they like. Or, it also happens, women get upset with someone (for instance, a guy abused her verbally) and… Read more »
I was hoping for more insight, but maybe there is none to be had. This happed before, several times but I only ever received a single credit back (do I have to request them?). The extra-ordinary event of having 3 at the same time prompted me to ask if there was something I was missing.
Fidel, No, you don’t need to request credits back, the system settings work automatically and 100% correct. However, if a woman has read your letter but didn’t want to respond (the software knows when it happens), you do not get the credit back, only if she never opened your message. If it happens “a lot” (3 times is nothing, on sites like Match.com it happens much more), then consider what you write in your first letter. Does it sound too impersonal as if it were “cut & paste”? Is it too long? Too short? Do you ask too many personal… Read more »