There are many more advantages of online dating than pitfalls, to my mind. As an online dating coach I deal with both aspects and definitely, for every pitfall there is an antidote, while the ultimate benefit is the chance to find The Love of Your Life.
Online dating is a great way to meet people you’d usually never bump into in your daily life
Anyone who experienced the feeling of being in love will attest that it is the ultimate high. 100% natural feeling of walking on the air, this is the goal of many a love-seeker.
Luckily, for lots of online daters their searchers ends in happily ever after, including birth of children and building a great life.
This is why concentrating barely on pitfalls will only shut down opportunities, while thinking how to fix a potential problem will get you the results you want.
These lovely couples connected on the dating site Elenasmodels.com.
Pitfalls/fixes:
- Fake profiles. There are some red flags but overall, if you quickly jump on Skype with video, you will know for sure whom you are talking to. Don’t engage in lengthy chats or emailing.
- People posting old photos. Same recipe: Get on video and see for yourself how they look today.
- People lying about their attributes, age, etc. Typically, users of free online dating sites are more guilty of that as compared to paid portals. In any case, research shows it’s easier for people to lie in writing than face to face. Ask a direct question about things that are important for you, “You said XYZ in your profile, is this right?” and watch their reaction. Most liars will just tell the truth. You will find it out anyway.
- Daters who are married on in relationships. There are some scary statistics about it, saying that 51% of all online dating people are in a relationship, and 11% are married, with only 21% really single. But dating sites that do personal interviews get much better scores in this regard, again, for the same reason that it’s easier to lie in writing than to a person. Follow the same procedure as at #3 and you will be certain the sweet girl or guy you were chatting to is not attached. You can also ask them to walk around their home with the mobile phone as if you were interested to see their place.
There are definitely many more genuine, sincere singles posting ads on Internet portals than there are people who are looking to take advantage of others. Watch out for individuals who aren’t willing to talk to you face to face on video and make sure you spend at least 10-20 minutes conversing, and it’s not just a few seconds of screen time and then the session cuts short (that’s the usual trick of con artists, who have videos of people in front of camera, but are unable to maintain the conversation).
In fact, video chats are the best way to see what the other person is really like. And it’s free when you use Skype or WhatsApp!
Good luck in your dating!
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I communicated and meet with guys on the Internet. It is true that a lot of them lied about their relationships, ages and hobbies.
Video with girls fine way, but not always easy. There are girls, who do not wish to go into video chat easily, because sorrunded with people (mainly the ones in university dorms), and do not wish them to know untill they are not sure they guy worth it to publicly “get presented”. Same stands if the family against foreigners (mainly guys), and the girl live in a crowded family flat. So in these cases less possibly to make a video chat at the beginning, or will happen at a different place not where the girl lives. Also there are possibly… Read more »
I met a woman in the Ukraine. I am in America and I asked her to video chat but she said she didn’t have the ability, but I have spoken to her on the phone several times. Should I be alarmed?
Scott, talking on video is essential when you are so far away. There is more to that. One thing — do NOT send any money for any reason whatsoever!
Elena-
Going along with this, I have emailed a woman 4-5 times now. I offered to exchange Whatsapp numbers after 2 emails and included my Whatsapp number, but she said she wanted to get to know each other in emails first and will give me her number when things develop. The last email she stated she is becoming more and more interested, but did not initiate speaking with each other on the phone. Should I initiate speaking with her now? I feel like it’s time to either start talking to each other, or I should pursue other interests. Please advise-
Jim, do you always follow advice from people you don’t know? 😉
It’s your relationship.
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Good point! And the answer is no I do not. I have plenty of experience dating American women. However in this case you’re the one person who’s input I do value Elena bc I don’t have any experience dating internationally. I’ve never even traveled to Europe. Funny you should direct me to your coaching program. I’ve been getting plenty of responses from women on your website, but I don’t want to spend time fumbling around figuring out all the cultural differences. Not to mention steering clear of the fake profiles. So I decided yesterday that I am going to purchase… Read more »