Sometimes I get questions on this blog that have been extensively and in length answered before, but some people seem to be unable to locate these answers.

This is why I would like once again to give a link to my complete manual (with answers to all the possible questions) about dating Russian and Ukrainian women here.

Where to get answers to all questions relating to dating Russian, Ukrainian women

I have put together this manual and program, so that men who consider a possibility of meeting a partner for a serious relationship and marriage in Eastern Europe (Russia, Ukraine, Belarus, Kazakhstan, etc.) could get the complete picture of what they are trying to do and how to make it a success.

I’ve been told the price is too high and there is no need to learn these things. I will leave it up to you to decide what is more expensive — to travel to Russia or Ukraine only to fail in the personal meeting after spending a few months on communication and a few thousand dollars to get there, or to download my program.

Many guys find it much easier to just send money to a woman and expect a perfect romance to land on their doorstep — without learning what they are getting themselves into beforehand. I don’t mind when people do it — some men prefer to learn from their own mistakes, rather than learning from somebody else’s errors — it’s up to them what they do, it’s their life and they have the right to live it as they please.

What does annoy me though, it’s when they keep asking me the same questions without being willing to follow the advice they get.

But anyway, for these people who think that my efforts and 20 years of experience in the international dating industry aren’t worth $299, here is a brief and concise answer to the #1 question of many men:

• Should I pay women’s travel expenses or send money?
  

Let’s answer this question for you — I am happy to assist!

If you live in different countries, to meet in real life at least one of you has to travel. What is the right way to organize a personal meeting and who should pay?

The answer is clear and straightforward

• Never send money to anyone whom you haven’t met in person in real life.

Period.

Never break this rule!

Video conversations don’t count — you need to meet them in real life, spend time with them and feel 100% comfortable doing that (sending money), being absolutely sure that this person will do what they say. How to gauge this information is up to you. Take responsibility — you are an adult. How would you act with a woman you’ve just met in a bar? The same here.

Simple enough?

• No wire transfers via MoneyGram or Western Union.
• No international bank transfers.
• No sending cash.

Don’t ever do it  — for any reason whatsoever. Simply do not send money.

The advice is to never send money to anyone you met online.

Yes, you should cover women’s travel expenses, if you expect her to travel to meet you

No, it absolutely doesn’t contradicts the previous advice.

Vice versa, it confirms it.

If you prefer that a woman travels to meet you (to your country or somewhere else where it is convenient for you), you are expected to cover her travel expenses — but do not send money.

How do you do it?

• Book tickets and accommodation yourself — don’t leave this responsibility to the woman. It’s easy enough to do online. Plenty of websites allow to book tickets and accommodation online. If you are unable to locate an Internet website offering such services, then go to your local travel agent and they will be able to assist you.
• Pay for the travel arrangements — only you will be able to get a refund. No need to send money to the woman.
• If you wish your meeting to be successful, book 2 different rooms for you and your date. It will be greatly appreciated and it will give you the best chance to secure a positive outcome for this relationship. If you do not book separate rooms, it will ensure anguish and apprehension on her part and may affect the outcome of your meeting negatively.

And if this seems too hard to you, then stop creating problems in your mind and simply go and visit the woman in her country (her home town or the capital of the country, where she may travel to without too many problems). You are still expected to cover her travel expenses and book 2 rooms in a hotel if she travels to another city in her country to meet you. If you wish to totally avoid the issue of sending money or someone benefiting from you in any way, then you should travel to her home town for a meeting.

If you are meeting a Russian woman or a Ukrainian woman, you are expected to cover her travel expenses to meet you. If you wish to avoid it, then you need to visit her in her home town.

You can do whatever you wish, but don’t complain later

It is our explicit advice to men to never send money to women.

However, the ladies who register on our website may not know the correct protocols of how to meet and date internationally, and they may inadvertently break our rule, “never ask men for money”.

If this happens and you report it to Help Desk, the lady’s profile will be blacklisted and she will be removed from the website forever.

But it doesn’t mean she was trying to “scam” you. She simply may have had no idea what is allowed on our website and what is not. If you started talking about a personal meeting and invited her to visit you or meet somewhere, she might just have agreed because she was keen to see you.

So, you have lost a potential romance and she has lost a chance to meet a partner on our site — all because of your actions, starting the talk about a personal meeting and then reporting her for asking for money.

This happens, guys, and it’s very often the man’s fault for being the provocateur and then getting the woman into trouble.

If your goal is a serious long-term relationship, book 2 rooms to make the lady feel comfortable: She may simply not be ready to go to the bathroom with the man of her dreams behind the thin hotel door. It will help in getting the best possible outcome and she will appreciate your gesture.

You need to realize it’s up to you to organize the meeting correctly

Don’t dump this responsibility onto a woman and then complain, “She tried to scam me”. Yes, the woman’s profile will be removed — we won’t bend the rules for anyone. The rule is the rule. It’s not allowed for a woman to ask a man to send her money, no matter what.

Not even if he offered to meet and then didn’t do any organization himself, but complained about her trying to organize something.

We do not differentiate. Money request is money request.

But the point being, it is up to you to organize your affairs and not up to us or the woman. She is earning 1/10 of your wage. She cannot afford to pay the travel expenses to the casting where you can assess whether you like her or not. She is very keen to find a relationship and meet the right man, but these expenses are simply too much for her to handle. It’s not in her budget.

If you do not feel confident enough that there is a sincere mutual attraction and interest, and possibly a great relationship to develop, then don’t spend time agonizing about sending money or paying for tickets and accommodation — rather spend the effort on building a great rapport and developing attraction.

The first steps on this way are:

• Great photos
• Great videos

Then you need to start talking on Skype with video and make sure it’s fun for her and not a tedious responsibility. Don’t know how? Read the manual.

Good luck!