International relationships work, and we see thousands of testimonies to this point in daily life. If you have been dating online for a while and have nothing to show for it, what’s going on?
Here is the list of things that might be happening — theoretically.
You have not thought it through
Do you have a strategy for your online dating campaign? Simply posting a picture with a few words is unlikely to do the trick.
The simple formula for success in online dating:
- Find out who you truly are and what you have to offer (don’t lie — it will come out sooner or later).
- Find out what you want — what kind of person you wish to meet (theoretically).
- Find out what the person you wish to meet desires in her partner — locate such profiles and read their partner requirements.
- Become the person your dream woman wants to meet — lose weight, gain muscle, clean up your home, etc (see how to get women to like you).
- Post an amazing profile and start talking to women of your dreams.
Point #4 can be substituted: If you do not wish to change who you are to suit what your dream woman wants, lower your ambitions and date ladies who will accept a man like you. You choose.
You are not doing what is needed
If you have signed up for a gym and haven’t lost a single pound, the reason may be that you need to actually go there and exercise at least 2-3 times a week for 45 minutes.
I have been guilty of signing up for services and not using them, so I know what I am talking about not just theoretically. You have to invest not only money (that’s easy) but also time and effort to make things happen.
You are too afraid to make a mistake
It’s nearly impossible not to make mistakes and have everything turn out faultlessly the first time. It’s like trying a new recipe from a cook book and expect it to taste like the $50 dish you had in a fancy restaurant last weekend. If you try to cook it on 20-30 occasions, it might happen. Until then, keep working on your technique.
Similarly, communication and relationship-building are skills. Dating online is a skill. Relax. No one could do it perfectly the first time. Theoretically, you should become better as your gain more skills, too.
If you do it correctly, it should work — theoretically
If you learn dancing, whether you are a natural or struggle with rhythm, you will be able to dance, in due course. It’s not the question of “if”, it’s the question of “when”.
Exactly the same way, if you genuinely want to meet a partner and have a loving relationship, it will work for you, eventually. Do the steps, get feedback, adjust, do it again. It is only if you fail to take feedback and adjust that you can possibly get stuck with no results.
Theoretically or practically, if someone like you managed to achieve it, it can work for you, too. But you need to make the first step and give it a go.
Read also:
- Dating Slavic women — 7 tips for a great first message
- How to get promoted on Elena’s Models
- How dancing lessons can improvie your success with women
- How quickly can you meet a girl on EM?
Everything is OK here. But to my mind it is more important to be honest and be ready and open to new contacts. And only after that you may try to become more attractive, more interesting and so on. I wish good luck to everybody!
I have spent a lot of time in searching for a best dating site to find a real life partner from the countries in the Eastern Europe, especially, Russia and Ukraine. In 2004, I got scammed for nearly $2500 in a free dating site. Therefore, trust has been a big issue for me on the dating site. However, after reading many reviews of dating sites, finally, I signed onto Elena’s Models. So far, it has been good. First, the site tells you the steps to take to avoid being scammed and definitely, you do not get any emails and EOI’s,… Read more »
It is funny. And stupid. What are these complicated rules for? Relations and senses depend only on people and people are different. Tastes differ. The life situations are different. Just be yourself! And listen to your heart! I wish everybody to be happy and live in a harmony! Enjoy the summer!
I have met a Russian girl can’t remember what site, she contacted me,is it true that most Russian women just want a green card.
I am 55 and can’t and don’t want any more children I have explained in my email but she hasn’t replied to this
Regards Alan
I am in the UK
Alan,
It’s not a Russian girl.
It’s a “love scam” similar to “Nigerian prince millions”.
Read here
It’s purposeful online criminals, they simply want you to send them money by Western Union. Report them to the site, tell them you suspect the profile to be fraudulent. They contact everyone on the site, as many men as they can get. Block them.
“If you do it correctly, it should work — theoretically”, but in practice it can refuse to work.
Sometimes unpleasant things or life’s circumstances disturb and change us.
That’s why very important to try to take control and be calm and patient. It’s very important to me to be honest with myself and don’t turn a blind eye to the truth. There is nothing of funny to look for mistakes inside us and rectify it.
Make yourself.
Very interesting this article and have much property as far as others who I have read here in the site, authoring of Elena Petrova.
I have a theory about human relationships: “You can earn a person with a smile and lose it with one word. Human Being is a box of surprises, where sometimes you win and sometimes you lose. Simple like that!”
Rip,
I think you are quite right!
You can do 100 things right and 1 thing wrong, and it may ruin everything. 🙁
Yes Elena, this is life, fortunately or unfortunately. The important thing is you fight for what you believe and what you want and, if possible, leave a good mark when you leave!