There is a cool saying about happiness: “Don’t put the key to your happiness into someone else’s pocket”. Happiness is a funny thing: it comes and goes, seemingly, as it pleases. But if you do more things that make you happy and less of those that make you unhappy, usually this works quite well for me. To become happy yourself comes first before making happy someone else, because then you can simply share.

Working in the industry of relationships, as I do, one is inevitably thrown into the greatest depths of human emotions. Nothing elates as much, or plunges into a greater despair, as finding or losing love.

What is the best way to find love? After 15 years in the industry, I am a firm believer that you need to first send your intention into the world that you are actually looking and ready, and let the universe to handle the small details. By saying that I do not mean to sit and wait patiently for your soul mate to ring the door bell (it may happen, but remember, she will not have “I am your soul mate” tattooed on her forehead, and, in all probability, unlikely even to have the name tag with this statement pinned on her lapel. So, even if your soul mate shows up on your doorstep, you still have to recognize her as such, introduce yourself, and casually start a conversation, and then ask her out. And then date her, and court her, and show her that you are her soul mate, too!)

But I diverged. I was talking about sending out the intention that you are looking and you are ready. Once you have made this decision that you are ready to welcome a soul mate into your life, start taking chances that will immediately start popping up. It’s like deciding to buy a particular model of car, and then seeing it everywhere. Make sure you take enough of these chances, or they will stop showing up.

I was wondering, what would be the price tag on finding a soul mate? The same as a car, or more? The same as a house?

Questions like these make my head spin. Childless couples spend tens or even hundreds of thousands to adopt a child. Is it worth it? For them, it obviously is. They believe that to become truly happy, they need to have someone to care about and love.

But I diverged again. Strangely enough, purchases cannot make us happy. I know, it’s kind of old, and been told thousands of times in different variations, however, it appears to be true time and again: people can make us happy for much longer than things. And this, I think, is the reason that I feel that assisting, in however minor way, to people to become happy by finding love is by far more fun than selling cars. Or houses.

And that’s about it for today!

Stay true to yourself. And take these chances.

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