Knowing these reservations will enable you to understand women better. Understanding and respect are quoted as the most desirable qualities in a relationship by ladies on our dating site.
When you develop a connection with a woman, she unconsciously expects you to know what she would like — without telling you about it directly. It’s just another female peculiarity, which doesn’t depend on her nationality but appears to be a common denominator across all continents and countries. If you are able to reassure her in her unspoken doubts, she will view you as an understanding and sensitive person.
- I am too young/old. Young girls often believe they are too immature to be taken seriously. Then it instantly switches into the mode, “I am too old”, when the woman feels she is no longer as good-looking and attractive as she once was. Out of two ladies aged 24 one may think she is “too young” and the other one that she is “too old”. Beautiful women never feel, “I am at the right age”, they always feel inadequate.
- I am too thin/fat. Similar to the age issue, beautiful women are seldom happy with their weight. A girl who is 46 kg may think she is fat, and a lady who is 70 kg may consider herself too thin, if all her friends are slimmer or bigger than her. It’s a rare occasion to meet a female who is 100% happy with her body mass.
- I have bad skin. Even if you think her skin is flawless, beautiful women have pimples, like all of us. For a pretty lady every blotch feels like a disaster. She may be so concerned about a bad pimple that she cancels a date or decides not to go out. Women spend ridiculous amounts of money on skin care products and procedures, often painful. Without make up many pretty girls feel “naked”.
- I have cellulite. Women are prone to cellulite, which may appear already in teens. Men have no such problem, and therefore struggle to understand why girls spend hundreds of dollars on anti-cellulite creams and pills. Cellulite makes a woman feel she is fat, even if she is not.
- My nose/lips/ears/feet are too big. You may think she is a goddess, but she thinks some of her body parts are too big or ugly shaped. Girls spend hours in front of a mirror and find all types of flaws in themselves. Every beautiful woman secretly has a body part that she wishes looked different.
- I am too stupid/smart. You may think that being bright is a strength but for a pretty woman it may be a curse. Sometimes females with high IQ are treated differently or seen as geeks. By the same token, girls whose academic performance is ordinary or below average may envy their friends who get higher grades. This feeling of inadequacy continues long into their adulthood, with women trying to seem smarter or less intelligent than they really are.
- Men only want to use me for sex. Most girls have been told by their mothers or teachers, “Men are only after one thing”. Good-looking ladies get hit on often, and usually given compliments based on their looks alone. But beautiful women want to be recognized for who they are, not only for how they look. They want to be considered as a whole person and not just a pretty face and hot body.
- I will never find a partner/my partner will leave me. Beautiful women who are single fear they will never find someone who loves them and whom they also love back. Ladies who are in a relationship usually fear that the partner may leave them one day for someone else — someone more beautiful, smart, thin, sexy, young, mature, sophisticated, rich, outgoing, calm etc.
- I don’t have good fashion sense. Fashion and beauty are two cornerstones of every female magazine. It’s an old adage that women dress for other women and not for men. How girlfriends and other females view her is essential for a beautiful woman.
- My sex life is not as good as other women’s. Female orgasm being a complicated thing, many beautiful women secretly fear they are missing out on true gratification in sex. Press and TV tell girls that they should strive for more satisfaction in bed for themselves and their partners, which make them feel apprehensive that they may not be doing everything right.
- I am never going to be a mom/I am not a good mother. Motherhood is a natural part of womanhood. Beautiful women without kids are nervous that they may never have a child of their own. Females who have kids worry that they are not good mothers or not giving their children all they deserve.
- I am not doing what I should be doing. Even the most talented and accomplished woman may feel that she is not fulfilling her life’s plan correctly. Regular girls are afraid they are missing out on a really exciting job or occupation, which they would be better suited for. They all wonder if there is something else they should be doing.
All in all, beautiful women, although they appear to be confident and sometimes even arrogant, have this deeply ingrained fear, “I am not good enough, and someone is going to figure me out”. Often pretty ladies were “ugly ducklings” and unpopular at school, and still carry the scars of being a wallflower. Recognizing their eternal insecurities and embracing the scared little girl inside a gorgeous woman will help you to connect with the real human being and the vulnerable soul beneath her beautiful facade.
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