Learning from your own mistakes is rather costly, but so is trying to learn on someone else’s mistakes. The only good way to learn is from someone else’s success.

Learning on other people’s mistakes is pointless

Lots of people go from one online forum to another listening to people who didn’t manage to achieve what they wanted. These people feel they are entitled to dish out advice to those who seek to achieve the same.

Let’s say, you are here because you want to meet a quality woman for a long-term relationship (marriage, family, etc.). Let’s say, you decided to look for a woman with great family values on an international dating site such as Elenasmodels.com.

Would it help you to listen to people who couldn’t get it right? You may think it could be useful, but in reality it’s just the opposite. This information is totally useless and maybe even misleading.

Why other people’s mistakes aren’t useful?

You probably know the tale of Edison and his experience in inventing a light bulb. The tale holds, Edison tried 999 times before his succeeded in creating a light bulb that worked.

When Edison was asked how did he feel after 999 failures, he said he didn’t fail but discovered 999 ways how not to make a light bulb.

His perseverance is legendary and commendable, as 99,99% of people would give up long before the attempt #1,000.

But that’s not the point of today’s discussion.

The point of today’s discussion: Would it help you if Edison told you about his 999 unsuccessful attempts to create a light bulb?

Possibly, this information wouldn’t be of much use for you, especially if you knew nothing about making light bulbs.

But what if he told you about just one (correct) way to make a light bulb? Would this be useful (even if you know nothing about light bulbs)?

What if you got step-by-step instructions how to make the light bulb — the ones that 1000’s of people used before you to make a working light bulb? Would this be more useful than accounts of people who tried and failed?

Of course, other people success stories are more useful. And even more so, step-by-step instructions of what to do and how.

This is why I say it’s pointless to try to learn on other people’s mistakes. Because very often, you aren’t even given the full story, why did they fail at the attempt.

For instance, someone may have failed in running a marathon — he had to stop after 10K. Does it mean you cannot run a marathon?  Of course, not! The guy probably just had poor training or there was another problem (he might have forgotten to arrange food for the distance and couldn’t continue because of lack of energy).

Other people’s successes give you a much better chance to succeed

When a person managed to achieve what you are trying to accomplish, they are able to give you a much better guidance at what’s needed to be done.

Over the years, thousands of men managed to find great women on Elenasmodels.com and created beautiful relationships. Their experiences and feedback are what I used in creating my VIP Dating Coaching Program for men seeking relationships with Russian or Ukrainian women.

Good relationships are built on the same principles, there is not much different dependent on where people live, but there are some cultural specifics to courtship rituals, what is expected and unacceptable, and it’s easy to get it wrong if you don’t know the exact rules how these customs work.

But once you know these differences and steps how to “light your own light bulb of a beautiful relationship”, then everything is smooth and simple.

Learn from other people’s successes! It’s pointless to learn from other people’s mistakes.

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