If you are wondering about whether your relationship is unhealthy, it possibly is. In a healthy relationship people are simply happy. There is one major sign of a relationship that is not good for you.

The one thing that lets you know clearly you are in a wrong relationship

The main sign that your pair isn’t healthy is easy to figure out. Ask yourself, if you were choosing a partner today, would you choose the same person?

• If the answer is resounding, “No!”—then you are in an unhealthy relationship.
• If you would still choose the same partner today but you feel unhappy, your union may not be healthy either.

Other signs of unhealthy relationships

Our feelings are strong barometers of how good things that we experience are for our wellbeing. Leo Tolstoy, a Russian classic author, wrote that all happy families are alike, and each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way. This idea still hold true today. Constant feelings of anger, sadness, shame, or fear when you are with your special partner mean you are not in a good relationship. Lots of issues could pop up in a bad marriage or love affair. But the central point is that you are not happy. Recurring bad feelings ring a loud bell. Examples of problems:

• Talking in raised voices.
• Repetitive offensive behaviour even though you told your partner it bothers you.
• Any type of physical or verbal abuse.
• Blaming and shaming.

Most often people behave badly because they are unhappy in a couple. Often this happens because they simply picked a wrong person from the start. Happiness in a union is something that is based on common values and goals, lifestyle and the strong desire to be together as a loving couple. If these things aren’t there from the start and the person isn’t making efforts to make it work, it won’t last. To build healthy connections, learn more about choosing the right partner. Check my dating coaching program, it gives plenty of tips on building a good bond from the start, as well communication techniques to make any connection work better.

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