When western men start dating women from Russia, Ukraine, Belarus, they often get bewildered when a lady gets offended. What is the best course of action in this case?

How to deal with the situation when a woman got offended

Best of all, of course, is to avoid making a woman offended. It’s easier said than done, because ladies from Ukraine, Russia can be very sensitive to certain topics and easily take offense.

These topics are best to be avoided altogether.

Among these things are:

• Any sexual questions or innuendoes. Women from Russia, Ukraine do not talk about sex even with men they are intimate with, it’s just some type of taboo. And they definitely are not going to talk about sex with a man they are not intimate with.
• Questions of the type, “Why such a beautiful girl is single?” The lady hears, “What’s wrong with you?” She is single for the same reason you don’t have a partner. She cannot meet the right guy!
• Anything bad about her country. You may think that she wants to immigrate and dislikes her country, but most likely she loves her country as the mother loves a child, and anything bad about her child will be taken as an offence to her.

Be careful about saying things in writing. This is how arguments start.

What to do with a lady who got offended?

These tips will help you if the lady seems upset and offended.

1. First, don’t offend her more! This can happen if you start explaining her why you did what you did or said what you said. You may inadvertently make it even worse.
2. Second, apologize wholeheartedly! Even if you are right — especially if you are right. Just apologize and don’t explain anything. Say that you are sorry, you were totally wrong, and you want her to be happy. She may realize that she was wrong, too (possibly, more wrong than you). There is no need to spell it out! The person who is smarter and stronger (hopefully, it’s you) simply does what is required to restore peace, immediately.
3. Third, monitor feedback more carefully in the future. Usually ladies get offended not to a single thing but to several things that have been a bit prickly but they let them go and said nothing. Then, when something else comes up the proverbial, ‘the last straw’ situation happens.
4. Forth, remember that people get offended more in writing than face to face or on the phone. When you are talking in person, the lady can hear your voice and usually it’s not as offensive or she can say something straight away and it doesn’t turn into a fight. But in writing, it’s very easy to start a fight. Be careful.

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