How to become happy

There is a cool saying about happiness: “Don’t put the key to your happiness into someone else’s pocket”. Happiness is a funny thing: it comes and goes, seemingly, as it pleases. But if you do more things that make you happy and less of those that make you unhappy, usually this works quite well for me. To become happy yourself comes first before making happy someone else, because then you can simply share.

Working in the industry of relationships, as I do, one is inevitably thrown into the greatest depths of human emotions. Nothing elates as much, or plunges into a greater despair, as finding or losing love.

What is the best way to find love? After 15 years in the industry, I am a firm believer that you need to first send your intention into the world that you are actually looking and ready, and let the universe to handle the small details. By saying that I do not mean to sit and wait patiently for your soul mate to ring the door bell (it may happen, but remember, she will not have “I am your soul mate” tattooed on her forehead, and, in all probability, unlikely even to have the name tag with this statement pinned on her lapel. So, even if your soul mate shows up on your doorstep, you still have to recognize her as such, introduce yourself, and casually start a conversation, and then ask her out. And then date her, and court her, and show her that you are her soul mate, too!)

But I diverged. I was talking about sending out the intention that you are looking and you are ready. Once you have made this decision that you are ready to welcome a soul mate into your life, start taking chances that will immediately start popping up. It’s like deciding to buy a particular model of car, and then seeing it everywhere. Make sure you take enough of these chances, or they will stop showing up.

I was wondering, what would be the price tag on finding a soul mate? The same as a car, or more? The same as a house?

Questions like these make my head spin. Childless couples spend tens or even hundreds of thousands to adopt a child. Is it worth it? For them, it obviously is. They believe that to become truly happy, they need to have someone to care about and love.

But I diverged again. Strangely enough, purchases cannot make us happy. I know, it’s kind of old, and been told thousands of times in different variations, however, it appears to be true time and again: people can make us happy for much longer than things. And this, I think, is the reason that I feel that assisting, in however minor way, to people to become happy by finding love is by far more fun than selling cars. Or houses.

And that’s about it for today!

Stay true to yourself. And take these chances.

 

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Alistair
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Alistair

Happiness is having a goal and reaching it.But it can also be not having a goal because some people are not ambitious because they have everything they want.

VanHeling
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VanHeling

Well Elena, getting happy in fact is extremely simple. The hard part is finding your second wing. Ones this job accomplished you do everything and even more in your power to make YOUR PARTNER happy!!!!! As a result total happiness will be your share too -:)!! Simple isn’t it? But so true!!!!! There of course is another narrow point on the road of life, lots of people take love and happiness for granted, BELIEVE ME IT’S NOT!!!! Life you can compare with a huge garden and love can be seen like the flowers growing in it, please forgive me this… Read more »

Natali
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Natali

Happiness is a state to which, consciously or not, practically everyone aspires. Another thing is that happiness for everyone is different: for someone it’s a safe family, for someone it’s professional self-realization, for someone it’s material prosperity.

Elena
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Elena

Everyone have their own definition of happiness. For someone it means to follow his dream as a process. For others it means to get reached the goal. And some people happy with all that they already have and they do not need more. But I think that the main secret of happiness is to love yourselves.

dailina
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dailina

Happiness is realized later. Love begins when you are not looking for. An unexpected meeting in the wrong or strange place at the wrong time is the most important – and this is happiness. And people do not even think he deserves it !!! It’s like an unexpected gift. They can earn money by the hard work and buy this gift themselves. But this is not happiness.

Alexandr
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Alexandr

I completely agree with all above in the text. Remember the frame from the movie “Evan Almighty ” when Morgan Freeman playing God told to Evanʼs wife: “When God is asked about patience, he gives patience, or opportunity is patience to be shown?”. Great words! Yes, each desire has the price, but, after all, person defines that he wants, and he has to be ready to pay for it. And it is fair, in my opinion. Also, as well as that he has to use the chances provided to it from above, after all, he wanted execution of the desire.… Read more »

Natalia
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Natalia

The main dream of every person to be happy. But still no clear definition of what happiness is. For someone happiness is family and love, and for another it may be the success and financial well-being. For me happiness is when my family is doing well, and when my loving man beside me. For me happiness is when you have a favorite work which brings pleasure. But even more happiness brings if we share it with others, do good to other people.

Mariana
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Mariana

It is not so easy to give an answer to this question. Happiness doesn’t have the same for all people definition. That is why it is silly to give any cocncrete pieces of advice to get this happiness. Each person should think what he or she really needs in this life what he or she doesn’t have and what he or she wants to change. A lot of things people can get thanks to money. But not everyone has it, that is why it is not so easy to buy happiness. If a person can make himself happy without money… Read more »

Azhar
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Azhar

I think, happiness is to feel love of your parent, boyfriend and et cetera. Happiness is if someone ask you «Free this evening?»:)And happiness is if you have pizza, coca-cola and films at night. Don’t make fuss just be happy.

Mari
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Mari

Unfortunately, nowadays many people value things and money and live with the illusion of happiness. But I am glad to be surrounded by people having another ideas about happiness. I am not alone, I have friends and relatives and it makes me happy.