There are two types of Eastern European dating sites where you can message girls: PPL (pay per letter) and membership-based. There is a big difference in how you manage messages to girls on different types of websites.

Dreams vs. Reality

The difference in managing messaging on PPL websites and membership-based dating sites is like dreams vs. reality.

• PPL messages are, in essence, paid chat, similar to phone sex. Just in this case you are paying for someone pretending they want to marry you, not have an intercourse with you. The messages will be always polite, friendly, and interested. PPL messages are dreams. Someone is being paid for being nice to you.
• Membership-based websites work similar to your local dating sites and apps. Girls can be interested or disinterested, friendly or unfriendly, polite or impolite. Messages on membership-based websites are the reality. The person you are talking to is not being paid for being nice to you.

Legitimate Russian dating sites are the ones where you can meet someone directly without tricks and mediators in between.

PPL (pay per letter)

PPL is something you do to pass time and pretend that this hot Ukrainian girl wants to move into your home and become the mother of your kids. It’s possibly an old grandmother from Odessa or a pimple-faced guy from the faculty of foreign languages who is chatting to you online, but you are getting lots of written interest and affection, so you can keep dreaming.

By the way, PPL is no longer limited to Eastern European dating. There is evidence the companies behind the pay per letter scheme are moving into European markets and try to attract girls from Greece, Bulgaria and other countries of the Union.

So, if you are paying for chats, you are in the PPL realm, no matter where the pretty girl is supposed to be located.

PPL is also active in Asia, South America, and Africa. In short, the idea fits long distance relationships where you hope to see this person one day. It’s easy to sell dreams at $2 per message.

You can keep dreaming about your “girl” being sincere with you, as long as you pay, “she” will say anything you want to hear.

Real dating

When you contact them through legitimate websites, which don’t use PPL, Eastern European girls are in general nicer as compared to your local ladies.

The reason for that is there are fewer single men than women in countries like Russia or Ukraine, this is why females get a bit desperate to find a man for a committed relationship. They have little choice, while guys enjoy ample options.

Because Russians in general marry early (33% of Russian brides are aged 18-24), girls who are 25+ start feeling worried whether they will ever be married. By 30 they are viewed in the local dating scene as “old maids”.

This is why ladies from the former Soviet Union (Russia, Ukraine, Belarus) are more welcoming to foreign guys, whom they view as committed-oriented and stable.

However, some girls will still be uninterested in you, although others will be highly interested.

If you limit your age difference by 5-10 years, you are going to be getting more positive responses than if you were trying to connect with women 25 years younger.

The average age difference in successful couples on the Eastern European dating site Elenasmodels.com is 8 years.

• This means, if you are a man aged 30-45, it’s rather easy for you to find a match.
• Once you turn 50, your options in attracting young Eastern European ladies drop, although women within 5-10 years from your age will still be highly interested.

How to message girls on Eastern European dating sites

Dating sites like Elena’s Models allow you to send an Expression of Interest before you spend time on writing a personal message. This message just lets the lady know there is someone interested in her, allows her to view your profile and answer “Yes” or “No”. This step is optional and you are welcome to write a personal message straight away.

• If you like a woman, it’s best to match the type of style and topics that she decided to consider in her profile, when sending a mail.
• Check if her requirements match your profile, especially the age limits. Ladies get annoyed with mails from much older suitors. But if you are just 2-3 years off, it’s OK to email her.
• Attach a recent and nice-looking picture of yourself to your message. Yes, she can see your profile, but she doesn’t know when the photos were taken. She would love to see how you look today, for example.
• Ask a question at the end, so she knows where to start when writing an answer.

In short, don’t overthink it. Just start talking and you will figure out how to proceed. Most people quickly move to Skype or video chats, to make their introduction feel more real. Successful couples seem to be talking on video for hours, before meeting in person and moving to live together as husband and wife.

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