Dating online is a mainstream thing in today’s world. People connect easily via dating sites and apps. Chatting on video is a regular thing for many people in their contacts with family and friends, but there are 4 specific things you need to tell women when asking for a Skype or WhatsApp date, in order for it to happen quicker.

4 things to mention to women asking for a video date

Even though people chat regular with their family and friends with video online, this doesn’t mean they are just as eager to switch on camera talking to someone they met on a dating site.

In fact, the reason why the person is single is probably because they aren’t very good at relationships. She may be a wonderful friend, a perfect employee or even a successful business owner, but when it comes to matters of the heart, it could be a tricky thing for her. That’s why she didn’t manage to score an amazing partner at home.

Even though there is a demographic imbalance in countries like Ukraine or Russia, there are still plenty of local marriages and most people are in relationships. She could be dating in her home country locally and be able to find a match, if she knew how to date. She doesn’t know or feels shy, and this is why she is alone.

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You can assume the ladies who are single and consider finding a partner abroad as an option have trouble dating at home. Not all of us can dance rumba perfectly (although we all can learn), and not all of us are good at dating.

This is why many good, quality ladies don’t understand the importance of introducing video dates early in an online relationship. If you explain them these 4 simple things, they will be much more eager to agree.

1. Women are camera shy

I talk to ladies directly a lot through social media and it is a common theme that women who are new to online dating have a huge hesitation to start chatting on video with men.

For them it’s like public speaking, which used to be one of the most terrifying things to people, according to surveys and polls. Just getting on camera and talking into a camera they feel terrified, even if it’s just to record a video. If it’s about talking to a live human being, they are even more apprehensive.

Think about going to an actual date with a woman: Isn’t it a bit nerve-wrecking? Women are much more sensitive about it, as they are much more emotional than men.

What to tell to women:

• I am a bit shy to talk on video, but I know you wouldn’t judge me too harshly.

This will calm her down and make her realize you too are apprehensive.

2. Women are worried about their imperfect English

Most ladies don’t speak perfect English and worry about being able to understand you and express themselves. This makes them nervous about going on video.

The educational system in Russia is focused mostly on written English, reading and writing. Listening and speaking aren’t given that much attention. As the result, women often struggle to understand foreigners who speak with different accents typical for their countries.

What to tell women:

• My Russian is basically non-existent, so I hope you know a few words in English. In any case, we can use a chat program with an online translator while we are on camera.

Many couples use the option of connecting with video while simultaneously employing the text chat program with an online translator. Even people who don’t speak each other’s languages are able to understand each other this way.

Even people who don’t speak each other’s languages are able to understand each other this way

3. The woman is worried that you may not like her

Most people are more charming in real life than on their photos, but they are still worried that the person they feel attracted to may not like them back.

But even if this is the case, what’s the point of postponing this? If it’s going to happen, it will happen.

What to tell to women:

• I love your photos and I am so excited to being able to see you face to face, even if it’s on video! I am a bit worried you may not like me when you see me, but if it’s going to happen, it will happen anyway, and I don’t want to waste your time. Time is the most precious commodity we all have in this life, do you agree?

This will give her another perspective on things that she may not have considered before.

4. She is unsure if she can manage it

You know the feeling you have when you arrive to a date and realize instantly it’s not going to work: The person is just definitely not your type. But you have booked a dinner and you are stuck with them for the next couple of hours.

So, give her an easy and manageable time limit for the video date, to make it simpler to fit into her schedule and feel less apprehensive.

What to tell to women:

• I think we should take it easy for the first time and make it short, let’s say, 15 minutes?

This is the time limit she can feel comfortable with, knowing it won’t be for a long time, if it doesn’t go well.

What NOT to tell to women

Just as the things you should tell to women, there are certain topics you definitely don’t want to raise.

• Don’t say you want a video date because you need to make sure she is not a scammer.
• Don’t say you need to see her live because you want to make sure she looks like her photos.
• Don’t mention any negative experiences or horror dating stories from the past.

Keep it sweet and positive, and she will be much more likely to agree to meet you on video, even if she is inexperienced in online dating and has apprehensions!

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