Sometimes I wonder what the men on ElenasModels.com came for. There is only one legitimate reason to be here — you want to find a woman to marry. Because this is what women who register on an international dating site are seeking: To find a partner for a lifetime relationship and marriage.
If you are here for any other purpose, you are at the wrong place.
Women on Elenasmodels.com seek a husband
I understand that in the western dating culture it became inappropriate to date with a goal to find a spouse. You are supposed to date just to hang out together, to find a relationship — even seeking quick sex is not looked down upon — but if you wish to find a wife, then you are viewed as a stalker or some possessive type. First you are supposed find someone who is “The Love of Your Life” and only then you are allowed to start thinking about marriage.
But what is wrong with wanting to find a partner for marriage initially? Since when it became something you should be ashamed of? In the Russian language, wanting to find a partner for marriage is called “having serious intentions”. As opposed to “frivolous intentions”, which means that you just want to hang out and have sex, without an intention to get married and start a family.
Finding a “soul mate” or “true love” doesn’t make sense for Russian women and Ukrainian girls, who come to ElenasModels.com to find a husband. They had already relationships with men locally, who were happy to hang out together and even probably told them they loved them, but these guys didn’t want to marry them.
So, for these ladies, it doesn’t make sense to just hang out together, enjoy time out and each other. They can have it at home any time. There is no lack of willing men to hang out, have sex without obligations, these men are willing to spend money and invest time in these relationships; it’s just one thing that is missing — these guys are not interested in getting married.
Girls come to Elenasmodels.com because they hope they can find a man who wants to get married.
Women are not looking for a father figure
I know it’s not a popular notion for international dating sites, which try to convince you that Ukrainian girls love older men. They tell you that Russian women prefer men who are more mature. It’s true, but they seek men who are older by 2-5 years, not by 20. On international dating sites, women are ready to accept a potential age difference up to 10 years. She may stretch her limits up to 12-13 years if the guy seems to be just perfect for her.
15 years, in my opinion, is an absolute limit for a marriage that will be rock-solid. But from my experience, 7-10 years age difference or less will work long-term better for you and her.
Are you looking for a life partner?
Or are you first of all looking for a woman who will give you a child? Be honest, at least with yourself.
If you are older and looking for a young woman who can give you a child, you will probably have the most success if you simply state it in your profile this way. Yes, women are not looking for a father figure, true, but they also can understand a desire of a man to have a child, because this is what they wish themselves, to have a spouse and a family. They will understand the desire to get married and have a family, but not the stated intention to “find true love” or “my soul mate”. Be honest.
Women definitely are looking for a good father of their future kids. Don’t be scared to state that you want to have a family and kids. Don’t be afraid to say clearly that you wish to get married and looking for a wife either. It’s not a local dating site; it’s a club for singles who are sick and tired of seeking a match in their home towns and wish to expand their horizons and find someone who seeks exactly the same things in life.
Unless you state it clearly, how will she find out if you are right for her?
Are you just seeking entertainment?
Women keep complaining that lots of guys seem to just want to chat on messengers and Skype but never make any move to take the relationship from online interactions to the real world. If you are not intending to get married, then it’s unfair of you to waste women’s time.
You are actually making these women to spend their time and emotional effort on you, and they are not seeking online chats or entertainment, but wish to get married. Your wasting half a year of her time may mean she will never find a husband, never become a mother, as time is more cruel to women than to men. You can become a father at 55, but can’t.
If you are not seeking a wife and a real relationship, but simply wish to chat online, go to PPL sites. Then it’s fair; you will be paying to women who are chatting to you. They, too, aren’t writing letters to get married, but to earn a living. You are paying for their time and you both are getting what you want: You get love chats, they are getting a wage.
But if you are chatting to women here without the sincere desire to move your romance to the real world, meet in person and get married, you are scamming these women out of their most precious resource, which is irreplaceable, time.
Do you want to find a woman to marry?
If you really want to find a wife, then stop screwing around. Stop “trying” and “just do it”.
Grab a copy of the VIP Coaching Program for Men Dating Russian, Ukrainian women and follow all the tips there, step by step.
You can succeed and you can find the right woman for you.
Just put in some work. Without working for it, nothing will happen.
Just like to get an athletic body, you need to exercise and eat correctly (that’s it!), the same is applicable here. If you want to get married, I have outlined all the steps needed to get a Russian wife who will love you for who you are. It is simple and you don’t need to be young, handsome or rich to achieve it.
If you are not succeeding, simply follow the proven formula.
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Elena, I do not think it is quite so simple as you stated in the last 5 paragraphs. I have been a member of the site off and on for over 10 years! I have the VIP Manual and I have made the trip to Russia and even had my first engagement in my life! But I am still feeling quite frustrated. I state that I want a family and want to get married. I still have lots of rejection and neglect from the ladies. I am taking Russian lessons and I am as committed as I can be. Maybe… Read more »
Roger,
It will definitely be an adventure for you to move to Russia. Think about starting a blog in English on a website like LiveJournal.com. Start recording your journey and I am sure you will have many followers. We too would be happy to publish some of your reports and observations about life of a foreigner in Russia.
место поцелуя варьируется в широчайших пределах, а место клизмы изменить нельзя. Извините, что по-русски. чтобы не вызывать критику за безграмотный английский. Роберт в поисках убил свои 10 лет и его место для поцелуя категорически сузилось)) еще и время женщин убил. У них, как говорят в статье, может время поцелуя вообще не наступить. Проблема, как еще пишут ниже, первобытный инстинкт, тяга к свежему, что приводит мужчин к размножению. Но сейчас перенаселение на планете. Материальные условия диктуют снижать функцию деторождения и стремительно переходить к функции потребления. Женщине проще не иметь детей, как можно дольше, чтобы представлять собой свежесть и объект потребления. Роды… Read more »
I have a female friend when she wore her wedding ring men would constantly flirt with her and wanting sex . When she didn’t wear it they didn’t to talk to her . She realized they only wanted sex without commitment. A lot of men want sex without commitment and still be free to do what they want when they want. Wanting freedom without obligation to move on to the next one . Not all men are like that . Men find different things appealing about other women that another might not have or willing to do . External, internal… Read more »
Dear Elena, its a great article. I’m absolutely agree with all what you said – be clear with your goals and put it in actions. Stop “trying” and “just do it!” – its an excellent phrase
So, i read that article, and sometimes, thought, that i haven’t any chances to find good man for family 🙁 I am good girl, 29 years, but i have son, and, when i send my EOI to somebody, all of it was rejected. Sometimes, some man writing me, but, they stopped, or with not serious intensions.
I am at that site 1 year, and, so confuse, maybe, i doing something wrong? Of course, it is article for man, but, maybe you have something for woman?
Margarett,
I guess on the Russian blog you could pick a tip or two 🙂
It’s the same thing for both men and women: Get good photos, write to other members you like, start talking on Skype, be sincere and clear in what you want.
Margarett! True, for some men undesirable a woman who already have children. For others not. But in many cases the real question is: “How did it happen?” Was she married once, and divorced? If yes: is that a wise idea to start anything with somebody who make a wrong choice once or more times (abusive husband or whatever), or simply walk out from an existing marriage provenly disloyal for one husband (so what are the possible expectations)? If was not married, but have children what did she do? Was a young and foolish girl seduced by a man who deserted… Read more »
Hello Elena, Very informative article. However, I believe that chemistry, how much two have in common, compatibility, interest in family/children, ……, etc. are a better indicator of a long term successful marriage than age difference. I know a plethora of couples that divorced with less than 5 years age difference. Age has never been a strong indicator of maturity, chemistry, intelligence, temperament, physical fitness and many other factors that lead to a successful and long term marriage. So, age difference alone is not a strong indicator of a successful relationship. In fact, it has only a weak or no connection… Read more »
Frank, I stopped arguing about age difference. I have nothing more to say; there are plenty of articles on this blog + pages of comments. Just to address the point you are trying to make: Yes, marriage is complex enough to complicate it further with a generation-wide age difference. Even close in age marriages break; and the ones with a large age gap have much higher chances to break. Statistically. There are exceptions. Live your life the way you want to and allow other people to live their lives the way they want! 🙂 A couple of more articles to… Read more »
Elena, that is exactly what I came here to find – a wife and someone that shares my desire for family. Age matters because I want to have children but I do not want a woman who is 20 years younger than me. I don’t really understand why that is attractive to some men. Everyone is different but I get uncomfortable quickly, beyond a 10-year difference. 15 would be my absolute limit, as well. You are spot-on about the sad state of Western dating culture. I find it so frustrating that people seem to think it’s shameful to be determined… Read more »
Thank you for the kind words! And good luck in your search.
The complicated nature of finding a ‘dream’ relationship is difficult enough if within your own culture, but finding perfection with an eastern European woman adds another dimension indeed. It would take extreme maturity and patience on both parties for it to succeed. Age seems to be the main topic here. Too me, men looking for very young women are seeking the wrong thing. Yes, men are cursed by the way God made us, to seek out healthy childbearing women to continue the species. We must rise above that primal drive and search for true companionship and a complementing relationship. I’ve… Read more »
Ohhh, it’s something about God, cavemen and childbearing. I’ thought it was because younger women look sexier.
That’s not saying that getting into a relationship with a hot young girl is going anywhere outside of the bedroom but I still think it’s because they look sexier.
And why do young girls go out with Grandpa? Money!
Yes…it is a very important and true.