Let’s talk today about Destiny, shall we?
A recent conversation with a member on the blog about Costa Rica offering visa-free entry to Ukrainians called for an update to an earlier post about how many ladies a man should see on his visit. Since I started my first blog in 1999, I have been advocating for men to talk to multiple female members initially but visit only 1 lady. Such approach will give you the best chance to succeed. This is why.
Why you should meet only 1 woman at a time
For Russian and Ukrainian ladies meeting a foreign man for a relationship is about Love. Yes, Love with the capital “L”. They are crazy about love. I think many western men do not understand it.
Guys tend to think that Russian and Ukrainian women are seeking a “foreign husband” or an “American husband”, and thus “should” do lots of things: Learn English, be ready to drop their work and chores if a foreigner decides to visit, be more understanding of his culture, don’t fuss about the way he dresses, and so on.
The fact is: Russian and Ukrainian women do NOT seek a “foreign husband”. They seek Love.
They are awaiting for this giant emotional high, and a man who will arrive and sweep her off her feet. Her Destiny.
As a founder of a Russian dating site, which also features profiles of ladies from Ukraine, Belarus, Kazakhstan and other former Soviet Union (FSU) countries, I affirm it would be straightforward if women simply wanted to immigrate. That would make it so much easier. But they don’t seek immigration—they dream of this ethereal “Love”. It means they want to be treated as dainty ladies and are awaiting their knights in shiny armour.
And whom do they meet? Guys who think it is OK to arrive and “pick from several girls”, wife-shoppers. How do you think this is going to come across? As if her prayers have been answered—or as the greatest offence since the invention of Internet?
Answer this quandary for yourself, please, before moving any further.
Why trying to pick from several girls doesn’t work
The casual dating trend, also called sometimes “hook up” culture, has yet made it to Russia and Ukraine. The biggest question for Ukrainian women during the initial stage of the relationship, which they still call “courtship” (aka “the period of candies and flowers”), “Is he serious about me?”
If you are not serious about her, she feels like she’s with a wrong guy. She needs to find someone who is serious about her.
If you arrive to see 3-4 girls, she feels insignificant and she is convinced that you are not her Destiny. The man who is “meant for her” would dedicate himself to her only. Thus, she will instantly become cold and unwelcoming, and it’s nearly impossible to change this attitude.
She would be actually more open to a guy she met today than to a guy she has chatted with for months, but who arrived to meet 3 different girls.
Led by emotions
Women in general, and Ukrainian and Russian ladies in particular are mostly guided by emotions. If it doesn’t “feel right” (and your meeting several girls to pick from definitely doesn’t feel like her ideal relationship should), then she is not going to go ahead with it.
If it “feels right”, on the other hand, she would do anything: Move to another country, learn foreign language, leave her family behind. But it has to “feel right”!
I explain this notion and how to make sure the lady’s emotions are taken into account (to fit her “ideal relationship” model and make her feel like it’s the hand of Destiny that brought you together) in my VIP coaching for men dating Russian and Ukrainian women. You can download it instantly and use immediately in your current relationship to ensure it works the way you want to.
Or you can continue on your own and then maybe come back if things are not going the right way. Hopefully, it’s not too late to correct any errors by then.
You can meet an amazing girl and live happily ever after. But there is the right way and wrong ways to go about it. Your success depends on which way you pick.
Wishing you success in your search and relationships!