The other day I was explaining to someone how international online dating works, and the response was, “It doesn’t seem like a good way to find a partner”. But surprisingly as it may sound, at some stage it is the best way to find a partner for marriage and family.
Why dating Ukrainian girls is a good way to find a partner
For a minute, let’s forget about good ways of finding a partner.
Let’s talk about finding the right person to fill in a work position. Who do you think would be the best person for the job? Of course, someone with the necessary skills and experience, as well as high motivation to work for the wages you can pay, and really needing the job.
It works exactly the same when you are seeking a partner for marriage. If you are sure that marriage is what you want and need at this point in your life, it’s quite hard to find a person who wants the same things. In the western culture, the accent is not on marriage but on having fun, enjoying life, going with the flow, and so on.
It’s different in the Ukrainian culture
The Ukrainian culture is strictly directed towards creating a family. It is the way for mature people to ensure their kids are going to do well in life. Once the children found a partner and dedicated themselves to this person in a marriage–the official union of love, which is supposed to last a lifetime–only then the parents can relax.
Of course, Ukrainian parents still help their kids for a long time, because local guys and girls marry fairly young. But parents feel that they have done their job and now the future lives of their kids have the right direction.
In the western culture, once kids are 18, the parents feel that youngsters should now take off and make a life for themselves. No one expects a girl to leave home only when she gets married, which is typical for Ukraine, for instance.
How Ukrainian girls are brought up
Since they were little, Ukrainian girls are brought up that for a female her happiness is in the family. This means a marital union with kids. Living together is not considered a proper marriage; only officially registered couples have the rights of husbands and wives. If you are in a de-facto relationship, then you are strangers or neighbours in the eyes of the law.
If you chat to Ukrainian girls, you can discover they think that once they get married, their life will be complete and it will definitely become better. This is their view not only about a marriage to a foreigner, but any registered union, including getting hitched with a local man.
Finding a partner in Ukraine
This high motivation behind a search for a lifetime partner is what makes Ukrainian wives valuable.
Another reason is that right now Ukraine is in an economic turmoil. Since 2014 life is not stable and there is no definite answer when it’s going to be back to normal. People find it disheartening to start families in the country that has an armed conflict in the East, which is something that they cannot forget about, even if their home cities are safe. By getting out of the country girls feel that they will have a better chance to live a stable life.
So, the motivation is very high.
It is also for the same reasons a woman from Ukraine views a regular western man as special.
- Average wages in Ukraine are still below US$300 a month, while prices for goods are on par with the rest of the world.
- Your earning around US$3,000 monthly is viewed as a great income for a family.
Of course, women understand that money goes a longer way in Ukraine as compared to western countries. But there is still quite a difference in lifestyle and stability, which makes a foreign marriage attractive, especially if she could not find a partner locally, no matter how hard she tried.
Pitfalls of dating Ukrainian girls
The biggest pitfall of online connections with Ukrainian girls is PPL (pay per letter) pseudo dating. These websites pay commissions for generated content (chats, mail, photos) to service providers (agents), who have a direct incentive to hire impersonators to falsify online romances. This is only possible when you are charged for every message you send or receive.
But it is this industry, PPL, which permeated Ukraine’s online international dating scene. The earnings on fake communication are so lucrative that even long-term companies that started in 1990s switched to PPL, along with hundreds of totally fake scamming schemes.
The only way to avoid being scammed through fake communication is to NOT pay per letter.
Fortunately, there are still a few international dating sites featuring profiles of Ukrainian women that offer a transparent membership-based model (similar to eHarmony or Match.com): Elena’s Models is one of them.
Their high rate of success stories demonstrates that it is a good way to find a partner in Ukraine. If you want something real, the best option is to get real.