Dating Slavic Women — 7 Tips for a Great First Message. When you are dating Slavic women online, the initial meaningful contact is your first message. Before that you would have probably received an Expression of Interest (EOI) from the lady, or she might have answered your EOI or sent you a short note first.

Regardless of who contacted whom, it is your first letter that will determine in a great degree how your future relationship will go. It is not rare that Slavic girls decide to stop communication after your initial email, and you may be wondering why it happened. Most likely, it is the contents of your correspondence that made her decide you are not a suitable candidate.

Find out how to make women notice you for the right reasons.

7 Tips for an Amazing First Message

  1. Include an attractive photo

Sure, you already have pictures in your profile. Attach another one with your first message as well—preferably in a different outfit to the ones in your Gallery on the dating site. The best would be to take a new picture today, something that shows your daily routine—in a gym, at work, outside on your patio watching sunset—anything that gives her an immediate taste of your life.

Poor photos instantly ruin your chances.

Tell her that you are sending a today’s image and what exactly you have been doing. Getting a good quality snap will only take you 5-10 minutes, but the benefits it will produce are enormous.

  • Most guys are too lazy to take a good photo even for their profiles—you will immediately stand out.
  • She will be confident that’s the actual way you look—girls also wonder that you may not look like your online photographs.
  • She knows this portrait was taken separately, and you haven’t sent it to hundreds of other girls before her—every lady enjoys feeling special.
  • If the surroundings in your snapshot are nice (make sure they are!), she will unconsciously aspire to be there with you—this means you’ll have a higher chance of getting a positive response.

Check list for your photo:

  • Well lit
  • Smile
  • Clean and tidy background—better still, a lovely natural scenery such as a lake, sunset, ocean, beach, snow, or flowers
  • Well dressed—preferably, wear a white collared shirt or other tidy clothes (unless you are making the shot skydiving or lifting weights in a gym)

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  1. Write something unique just for her

Read her profile and compose something original only for her. I always know when a message is prewritten—it’s too vague, you know immediately it could be sent to dozens of other people. Even if you change certain sentences, it still feels impersonal.

Write something special just for her.

When you are creating a message just for her, you are able to mimic her writing style, and make your memo sound similar to what she said about herself.

  • If her profile is long, draft a longer letter.
  • If her online summary is funny and written with humour, include a few jokes.
  • Address the same issues that she discusses in her texts.
  • Use the same expressions and words—she will be able to relate to them directly.
  • Compliment her on something particular that she mentioned about herself.
  • Refer to her photos and what you liked about them—don’t ponder over how pretty she is but comment on specifics. For example: “I liked your red dress, it really suits you”, “In the image on top of the mountain, where was it taken?” etc. (Make sure you have read photo descriptions, so that you are not asking questions, which are already answered.)

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  1. Make it short

Your first message should not be longer than 1000 characters without spaces (about 220 words—use Word Count function). When Slavic women see lengthy sagas, it’s too hard work for them to read and translate, and they may decide you are a bore. Only say the most important and pleasant things. Keep other topics you want to discuss for later.

It is also much easier to make a blurb in longer descriptions—accidently bring up something she won’t like. If you have already exchanged a few communications back and forth, she will trust you more and won’t get easily offended, but in the initial stage she hasn’t invested anything into your relationship—it’s painless for her to discard.

When you are writing a short note, it’s easier for you to send it to her quickly—detailed stories take time. There is no benefit in your first letter being lengthy.

  1. Ask questions

The biggest concern of Slavic women is, “What do I write to a man?” They are unsure what to answer to your email, if they feel attracted to you and would love to continue communication. They are afraid to say something wrong that could turn you off. If your passage only tells her how astonishing she is, she has no idea how to reply.

Ask her some questions, and she will have something to talk about. Don’t list too many queries at once, as it would sound like an interrogation. Tell a little bit about yourself and add a relevant inquiry about her, that’s the best way.

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  1. Don’t send anything offensive

I regularly hear from women that men post all kinds of distasteful messages to them. Some of the frequent offences:

  • Photos without shirts. You might have in mind to impress her with your body sculpture, but she feels it is a sexual innuendo, inappropriate during the first contact. It doesn’t matter that she has a picture in her bathing suit in her online dating profile: you want to see her showing off her body, and she doesn’t wish to examine you undressed.
  • Copy-paste texts. Girls know when you are sending a copy-paste. Rather write a short paragraph just for her than mail her a long chronicle, which you are dispatching to everyone. (Long chronicles are great when you get to know each other and she craves more information about you.)
  • Saviour flavour. Some guys write things like, “If you marry me, all your friends will envy you, and if you stay in your country, you will die”—it is a true quote from a first letter! For a long time already marrying a foreigner is not a big deal for Slavic ladies. To be “an envy of your friends”, you need to marry someone famous in your country—moving overseas cuts a woman off the radar of her circle, who won’t care. In particular, Russia today is on the wave of neo-patriotism, with the prevailing message in the media that “Mother Russia” is the greatest country on Earth to live in. Remember: Women are not seeking a country to immigrate but a partner to start a family with—that’s two completely different motivations. She would be more interested in hearing that you want children and seeking a woman for marriage, and that you are ready to visit her country, if things between you and her go well.
  • Intention to correspond for a long time. Online romances are a pet hate of Slavic women seeking men abroad. There are hundreds of men on our site (you know who you are) who are buying memberships year after year and keep corresponding with ladies, promising them to come and marry them one day. If you are telling a woman in the first letter that you need to converse for many months before you decide whether you want to meet in person, she may chuck your message into “dreamers” bin. You don’t have to jump on the plane tomorrow but she doesn’t want to hear in the first email from you that she will have to demonstrate for many months that she is serious.
  • Scamming accusations. I know many men come to EM after having been fleeced on other online dating sites. I am sorry that things like this exist, but that’s not our fault, and not the fault of women on our site. We do check all profiles very carefully before approval, and work very hard to eliminate any potential of your being scammed by unscrupulous people. If you even mention anything about “scams” or “scamming” in your profile or first letter, you may be sure that only extremely desperate women will agree to talk to you. Normal girls will immediately block you, as they don’t desire to prove constantly that they are not scammers.

Before sending your message, read it again and think if anything could offend the lady you are trying to impress. If unsure, delete it and talk about it later, when you both learn to trust each other.

If you haven’t been to Moscow, here is a video that will give you an idea, what life there is like. Does it look like you need to save someone from there?

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  1. Use simple phrases and words

Remember that many Slavic women don’t speak perfect English and have to use online translators. Complex structures and idioms don’t translate correctly thorough software and are hard to understand even for ladies whose level of English is reasonable.

Your message may go into the “too hard” basket, and you won’t get an answer.

  1. Spell check

For the same reason—online translators—you must make sure your spelling and grammar are correct. If a word is misspelled, it won’t convert through a software program.

Poorly written mails look disrespectful and give an impression that you are careless. Grammatically correct, polite letters convey good things about you.

 

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Ирина
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“If you marry me, all your friends will envy you, and if you stay in your country, you will die”.
This phrase startled me. I can’t believe anyone could believe such a rude line could ever work. I mean, even if a girl wants to live, get married and raise children in some other country it doesn’t mean she wants to read such abusive messages. Geez, I don’t think she would even want to read you insulting her country even if she doesn’t like it very much. Some saviour… Sounds more like a tyrant to me…

Natalilys
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I would be interested in his phrase about common interests and hobbies. I would decide to talk with a guy about our common theme, because there is something to talk about. Our conversation would be interesting, but not empty.

Nabil
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Hi, i`m 32 male, muslim, Good looking, never married or played around Middle eastern (Egyptian) who migrated to australia. I`m much open minded and intelligent, and i took the move to find someone from RU/Ukraine and i know what i`m doing. (and certain they are better than both my country and australia for many many reasons) and i guess hell yes Russian/ Ukranian girls have much to be proud of (my best friend is married to a ukrainian and i know many others who did and very happy.) Anyway i`m not superficial and i’m demanding (need a structured girl, character,… Read more »
Thomas Davis
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This really helped me a lot !! Know what to say to someone you don not know is so hard to figure out ! Its been a lot easier for me since I read this Blog !!

Thanks !!

Steve
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Hi Elena,
Thanks for posting this blog. I was about to communicate with a girl I like and I was confused on what to write and how to start the communication. This article was timely and I really appreciate your insight.

Rgds,
Steve

Antonio Ayala
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I think TIP 4 is a good begining to start a good conversation !!!

Tim Read
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Got to agree with point 2 its not just Slavic women.. tell them something specific not just a general ‘oh your beautiful’ the devil is in the detail and it will get you further.

Lesia
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I think it doesnt matter if you are communicating with the Slavic woman or not, we all like to feel that man are not flattering and speak openly. I think this is the key to the success.

David
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Loved the video of Moscow and makes me want to visit even though I am not into big cities..well done!! The advise for writing that first letter was very thought provoking and gave some great insight.. The problem with spending that much effort in writing a woman is that so few even bother to just acknowledge your efforts with so much as a “No Thank You”.. Is that their way or was it what we said??? I reality ladies, a true gentleman CAN accept a “No Thank You” as part of the dating game as we also respond and do… Read more »
Graham
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Hi,
Really useful section. Especially the video about Moscow. I have had a very pleasant experience on EM. Met some really lovely women who I am in more and more contact with. I hope to be able to visit Ukraine very soon… 🙂
Graham

Tad Perry
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Elena, It’s all very good advice. I’ve also found that being completely honest about all things can be very helpful. Slavic women seem to really appreciate honesty, even if you are telling them something difficult to say. This may not be applicable to a first letter, but it’s good to keep in mind. I tend to really only respond to women to approach me first. It’s much easier that way for me. Last year, I was corresponding with several women at once. I struggled with what to do about that situation. Is it right to form online relationships with more… Read more »
Burns
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This article was really helpful on how to write great first messages, thank you. Do you have any advice for second messages? I’ve noticed that using your suggestions I am getting a much better rate of replies, but then my second messages, which are a little longer, don’t as much. Should the second message be more conversational and friendly in tone, or should it still be somewhat serious and guarded?

James
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Hello everyone. I am glad I dropped in this evening because I took the time to view the Moscow video. A beautiful city with its own style, power and grace. You Russians can be very proud of your cities. Amazing!

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