Men are often surprised to see so many gorgeous girls on dating sites for Slavic women. They cannot believe these beautiful single women cannot find a partner. Is there something dubious going on?
“Why such beautiful women are single? They seem too pretty to be single.”
In fact, beauty is common in former Soviet Union (FSU) countries. Patriarchal (“traditional”) family values have a comeback in today’s Russia, with girls brought up from an early age that their most important goal in life is to get married and have a family. As such, females strive to get married by the age of 25 and single girls 26+ feel uncomfortable under the constant pressure from family and friends to find a husband.
This pressure is what drives females to perfect their looks, in order to attract and keep a man, making women’s beauty common rather than special.
You are seeing normal everyday girls and women on Slavic dating sites, although you may feel they are very attractive. But they don’t think they are special because of their looks. In their countries, they are considered average.
In a similar way, Slavic ladies you see on dating websites may think you are special because you do not abuse alcohol and have a stable job that pays over USD $2000/month, your own place to live and a car (in Russia and Ukraine you would have lots of females wanting to be with you), while you think it’s nothing special.
Demographics make life easier for men and harder for women
Because in post-USSR states there are 86 males to 100 females, good men are hard to find. And with females seeing their primary role in life as being a Wife and a Mother, guys can pick and choose.
So, these beautiful women you see on Slavic dating sites don’t have a problem to find a guy to go out with. But they do have a problem to find a man who wants a long term relationship and start a family with her.
With so many choices available to them, guys know they can easily find a wife. The ones who wish to settle down don’t stay single for long. But girls who want a serious relationship and a lifetime partner struggle. This is why so many beautiful women in Russia, Belarus, and Ukraine are single.
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I think it is also because a high number have a loose screw on the head. A year ago I ended my relationship with a Russian doctor who lived in Quito, Ecuador. Everything was fine until a friend of her from Saint Petersburg, that worked in Quito too, met a Russian Canadian Jew. Her friend went to live in Montreal with him, then I learned that the man got bored and sent her back to Russia. I do not know what ideas her friend put her in the head but she insisted that I go and live with her in… Read more »
Why can’t she continue the search if it is a good resource for the future : youth, citizenship, education. Its resources – it’s all for her: see neighbor dialogue men looking for women for 25-30-40 years younger (money, good citizenship, and opportunities), because this resources, our local women look only an equal position!! So post off-topic: it never wants to work – if at first you don’t have a equal start..she was in the worst position in her country, but having the resource has risen in your country! She’s young that raising the position of Your country – wants a… Read more »
ZoyaV, I am autistic but a native English speaker so I was not able to understand what you were writing above in response to Tunapma. I have had a similar experience to him. My Russian girlfriend agreed to marry me then broke the engagement after deciding to give her abusive ex-husband another chance even though she repeatedly said she would never give him another chance! Then many months later and after she failed, she wanted me to give her another chance with her. Then within a month of communicating again, she once again broke off our correspondence because she had… Read more »
The tricky part is getting these women (at least one) to continue conversations past one or two emails. It’s quite frustrating, paying hundreds of dollars on this site each month, and still being single, because the women aren’t as serious about having a relationship as you are.
Ryan,
Can you explain to me how do you manage to be paying “hundreds of dollars on this site each month”? Our Gold membership is only US$129 for 3 months, Platinum – $259 for 3 months. How do you manage to spend “hundreds” “each month”? It’s impossible.
Your statement about inability to continue conversations past 1-2 emails is just as doubtful – unless your definition of a “relationship” is corresponding online for months.
See also: Questions about you women REALLY want answered.
Exactly Elena. Glad you replied to his nonsense. I was going to tell him the same thing. And if he renewed every 3 months his cost is only 30 dollars per month US for gold.
Chaos: because you pay such a big for the Russian money and they poured into the toilet. I try very stable correspondence. But many of the facts: he’s not answering me, makes a break for 1 week or for a month without warning, writes such things (very often complain of health. IT-professionals, as I, complain about their problems, say that they have no time and they are very busy). If a person does not want to continue: I immediately delete and even block, so as not to interfere in the search. If you paid, so use Your contacts to complete.… Read more »
Ryan, What site are you paying hundreds of dollars a month on ? It cant be this one as I paid $89 for 3 months for my renewal. Sure I paid $129 for the first three months so why are you paying hundreds a month? Back to the article, so far I have been successful communicating with approximately 50% of the women who sent me a response. Some I did not respond back to after one mail as frankly I was not interested. Those that I found interest in that wrote to me a few times shrank down to roughly… Read more »
I find it both a bit sad, and also greatly increasing my opportunities, that certain qualities that I take for granted from someone trying to find a good lady online… are actually considered valuable benefits for a man. Not smoking, not abusing alcohol, having a steady job, and being respectful to ladies seem to me to be a relatively low baseline for a man to meet, not major selling points. The fact that Slavic ladies actually look at my profile and say “Hey, he’s not a drinker, that’s great!” makes me close my eyes and shake my head in sadness.… Read more »
If you don’t drink something = you Hercules, Prometheus and such fortitude and strength of will, that is fantastic. This is a very worthy of respect in Russia. I live about 5 houses in 25 floors, stands alone in a forest of 14 hectares of reserved forest and close to a large lake. It is located on the outskirts of Yekaterinburg. In our 5 homes opened 5!! the beer market. After work, almost all drinking beer and grilling meat in the woods – a very good nature. I buy homes for children (to buy a house for children and education… Read more »
There is nothing wrong with drinking in moderation. It’s the abusing the drink that is the problem.
It takes just as much will power or even more for some people to say no more after 2 or 3 drinks in an evening.
Some people cannot do that. For those who can’t it is actually easier to quit and not touch the bottle.
Self control is the real issue….whether a person drinks or not! As for the issue of drinking or not….I agree it is better not to drink. And definitely some people should never ever drink.
Heh. I drink at most a half bottle of beer or so at a time, but I cannot claim to such great fortitude of will…. I’ve found that alcohol upsets my stomach, and while I like the flavor of some drinks, I would rather upset my stomach with a lot of good food, than with just a little good alcohol. So let’s say that I’m good at calculating which action will lead to a more pleasant outcome and sticking to the decision, rather than having amazing willpower. That and, also, I don’t like doing things just because everyone around me… Read more »
The context of the article: that men surprisingly, in Russia many lonely beautiful women and they can’t find a pair and ready international Dating. And I show what they are surrounded by men. The fact that there are very good and they are still a time of youth: a couple, a family, go skiing, run, and bike!! But men are easier DOWN than UP. UP is a very hard way, as penance!! Therefore, if there is a lot of beer, there is a habit to have it constantly: every night from 2-3 litres!! Then it goes into the vodka! Family… Read more »
About survival: my grandmother, Jewish refugees from the genocide were in Tajikistan, my mother is a refugee from Free Tajikistan (in 1980-90 years of unrest, when the country became a free state, and they deported all foreigners). My mom then mу – 5 year old and my sister 1 year!! Then I moved into Ekaterinburg from the small town nearby. I have 3 apartments here (the property is very much appreciated, it is expensive because the World Cup will be a great rental property). I’m still in America, not moved)) and I have no doubt that it will survive. And… Read more »
Even if i would find a russian man no sense to be with him russian men mostly are lazy dont care of family dont love children egoistic narciss drink much after they have problems with potention cold bad in sex. i would better be alone than to be with such an example. yes a foreigh man is absolutly other culture but they mostly respect women and want family especcially eastern men.
Really, it is true, beautiful woman is often alone. I believe that this happens because of the woman. My friend, for example, make big demands to her future boyfriend.
Today it seems to you that your soulmate will stay with you for thousand years, bur tomorrow he can leave you. Or maybe vice versa. And not necessarily it will be entirely his fault. And maybe it’s not just about men? Do all women exactly know what they want?
Can someone tell me why many Russian/Ukrainian men feel the need to drink so much alcohol? (It obviously damages their health, relationships and employment prospects).
Robert,
Drinking is a favorite cultural past time and part of bonding ritual between guys. A man who doesn’t drink will have even worse job prospects to move up, as all business issues are negotiated over a day zen of bottles of vodka in a sauna, in a company of men. Part of the reason why it’s hard for a woman in the ex-USSR to move up the ranks.