Ukrainian women seeking options to date foreign men are not news. Recently we discovered top-7 complains of Ukrainian wives about their husbands. But what about the guys? Are there any particular things that annoy gentlemen from Ukraine in local ladies?
What Ukrainian men dislike in their women?
The same outlet that brought us revelations about Ukrainian wives’ grievances, KP.ua, gathered intelligence about the grudges that male partners voice most often about their spouses.
1. Women don’t look after their bodies.
One divorced Ukrainian guy complains that at the age of 55 he is fit and healthy, able to do 30+ pull-ups and 120 push-ups, swim several miles. But there are no ladies who are interested in fitness as much as he is. At least, he doesn’t see them at the training grounds.
Ukrainian psychologist Irina Petrova points out that local females simply don’t have time for formal exercise, as they are full-time caregivers for the children and have to cook, shop, clean and do the washing. Their home chores are their exercise.
Her advice to the divorced guy of 55? To choose women 20 years younger (seriously), if he values appearance so much. She points out that there are plenty of young women in training centers.
Truth is, women 35+ get used to be looked at as genderless creatures. In Ukraine, ladies of this age feel that they are seen as “too old” for love. That’s why they either concentrate on taking care of kids or look for a partner abroad.
2. She wants me to make all decisions.
Ukrainian men complain that ladies don’t want to make any decisions but rather put all the responsibility on the male partner. A Kiev guy says that all the girls he was dating didn’t want to solve problems together but wished him to solve their problems. As the result, instead of just having to deal with his own issues, he would have to resolve his girlfriend’s problems as well. That’s why he is still single and looking for that special lady who will be sorting out her own stuff.
Another guy from Kharkiv feels the same. He thinks women don’t need a man, but simply want to dump their problems on a guy.
The psychologist says it’s the guy’s own choice what kind of women he welcomes in his life. Does he want a lady who behaves like a little girl? Then it’s no wonder she wants a daddy who will solve her problems.
3. The woman is trying to control his every minute.
One Ukrainian man says he met a self-sufficient lady, whom he liked a lot. Until they went for a vacation together, where she wanted to be together 24/7. The girlfriend was waking him up at 8 am to accompany her to a yoga lesson, because she was bored to go on her own. She didn’t want to go to excursions alone but only with him. Instead of going out with his girlfriend, the guy wanted to browse Internet on the computer, and she was unhappy about it.
The couple decided to live together but he moved out in a month, because the girlfriend was calling him at work. He didn’t like it and decided he preferred to live on his own.
4. She complains about everything.
One married guy complains that the wife was unhappy about his giving her too little attention, staying at home instead of going out as a couple.
He thought that her having a child would make her happy, but she again complained about not his helping her around the house, coming home too late, and “living in the computer”. Too many complaints to his liking.
5. Marriage turns a man into a slave.
Another Ukrainian man says that marriage is a “voluntarily slavery” for men. He is not allowed to meet friends after work, spend time away from the family. His wife is looking after two kids, who are 1.5 and 3 years old, and she demands the husband to come home straight away after he finished working, which he feels is overly restrictive. He wants his own time away, not just at work but hanging out with friends to relax.
6. She is a bad cook.
Grigory, a newlywed husband, complains that his wife cannot cook properly. He doesn’t like his wife’s cooking and his mother tells him to come and eat at the parents’ home, so that he can enjoy the food. But he cannot eat there all the time, because the newlywed wife gets upset.
In his words, his wife cannot even make the rice pudding correctly, because she uses a type of long-grained rice and she should be using the round rice variety instead. This makes him annoyed and unhappy.
What do you think about Ukrainian men’s complaints about their wives and girlfriends?
Are these valid complaints or the Ukrainian men are just spoiled brats?
One thing we can say, the lists of grudges that men and women voice about each other seem to match.
The things that make local guys unhappy are exactly the issues that Ukrainian wives feel aggrieved about.
That’s why Ukrainian girls love the “period of flowers and candies” when a man courts the woman. Because after they become a couple, she is the home cook, cleaner, children’s caregiver, and he just yearns to be away and do what he wants in his spare time, rather than spend it with the family.
So, the courtship period is the only time a girl “feels like a woman”. The man is giving her attention and tries to please her. That’s why girls try to resist for as long as they can, because it’s all downhill from there!
Besides, just like in Russia, people in Ukraine marry rather early by western standards. The young wife could be only 19-22 years old and her husband is probably just a couple of years older.
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The Ukrainian men’s grudges about their wives seem selfish as they never used to be. If you really love the woman and your children, isn’t it a real happiness to spend as much time together as it possible? What for you go on holiday with you family and sit in front of the lap-top most of the time? Of course, everyone needs time for his/her own interests but don’t make absurd from a good thing. Marriage life devotes compromise every day and it will be a happy marriage only if all the sides are ready to respect other’s interests and… Read more »
This all applies to women in general, not specific to Ukraine
It is not happiness to spend AS MUCH time together as possible. There should be room to separate and do things separately once in a while. It requires communication and compromise, because just as trying to keep the couple together all the time can lead to friction and arguments, so can trying to take as much time separately as possible. But neither extreme is a good thing. It makes sense for some people to get on a laptop during a vacation, for people who can’t let go of their habits and email and such. Again, doing it a bit in… Read more »
I think the key advice was given in this article” It is a guy’s own choice what kind of woman he welcomes in his life”. I appreciate the proposition of the article to let guys sound of with their complaints. Likely these are true for many, even very common. Whether it be a woman or a man, the complaints are real for them. Anyta87 seems fine not to comment on what women’s complaints were but directs that men are selfish in complaints (we forget women are not selfish when they complain). She comments in a fantasy idealistic view completely ignoring… Read more »
It seems to me that it is all about finding the right person and working hard to have a great relationship. Everybody has different needs. We should learn to accept people as they are and not try to change them. At some point I can understand men but at the same time many women don’t have ideal partners as well.
They seem to me pretty fair reasons. I don’t think that Ukrainian men are spoiled basing on these answers.
Where they get theese guys? For every relationship needs TWO person. So if you let things to happen, that will happen. Theese are questions of relationship not some law, or rule enforced by the system like in the western world. Complaints 2,3,4,5 exactly the same what I heard from a Russian guy when we meet up in a language group two weeks ago, and he tried to deter me from the plan to marry with a Russian woman (near some additional). My reaction was the same: don’t let. In the other hand: “That’s why Ukrainian girls love the “period of… Read more »
Robert, the courtship process used to be very similar in western countries as it is now in Russia and Ukraine. In 1950s western women had to be wives and mothers, cooks, cleaners, baby-sitters, while men were bread-winners. Watch some movies from 1980s and women are portayed very different at the time, very much like FSU ladies behave now. But you guys also say you don’t like how western women behave now… make up your mind. All these things are connected. If Ukrainian women start believing they don’t need a man in their lives, the value of marriage will be at… Read more »
Exactly absolutely agree- Elena