58-questions-Russian-Ukrainian-women-dating-1If you are dating a Russian or Ukrainian woman you met online, the most important issue is to get to know and understand each other, and make sure it’s for real.

Sharing photos and videos is vital to building rapport and trust, but you also need to find out what type of person she is. Her English may be imperfect but you still will be able to understand her, even if through an online translator. As you converse on the dating site through emails, chat, video, and then Skype, you will start learning more about each other.

The way to raise these 58 questions in conversations with Russian, Ukrainian, or Belarusian women you are dating is when you have direct communication and are not paying-per-letter. If you are using PPL (pay-per-letter) dating model, there is no point in asking these questions, as you won’t know who is answering them — the girl in the photos or the translator of the agency. You may simply end up paying hundreds of dollars for no extra benefit to your relationship.

(Read more about PPL dating here: What is PPL dating? — Pay-per-letter and pay-per-minute relationships)

But if you have already established direct communication and 100% sure you are talking to the girl from the photos directly (for example, you talked to her on Skype without paying for a “video date”, and she gave you her direct email address and mobile phone number, which you use for communication) — in this case, asking these questions will enhance your relationship and build more trust. On Elenas Models, you have unlimited chat and mails available to you at no extra cost, so be sure to establish a quality connection before you decide to meet in person or invite your lady-friend to visit you.


Russian and Ukrainian women (and ladies in general) love talking about relationships. It helps girls to relive emotions they have experienced before and fall in love with you. It also assists you in selecting the person whose views and values are aligned with yours.

All questions have the correct Russian translation next to them (Ukrainians and Belarusians can speak it as well). If a Russian or Ukrainian lady you are talking to struggles to express herself in English, offer her to answer in Russian and you can then translate her response though an online translator like Google Transkate. If she speaks good English, it’s better to ask 3-4 questions at a time when you chat on video or Skype, so you can see her reaction.

In any case, it’s best not to send the list to women. Spice up your conversations and letters, but don’t turn it into an interview. Be ready to provide your own answers about these matters.

Remember, you are not only asking about it to get answers, but mainly to make Russian and Ukrainian women think, wake up their emotions and feelings, and, eventually, make them fall in love with you.

WARNING: Do NOT ask all these questions at once. Do NOT send them as a “list” to your lady. Ask no more than 3-4 questions at a time and edit them, so they sound unique.

58 questions to ask Russian and Ukrainian women you are dating

  1. Have you ever been to my country? (Были ли вы когда-то в моей стране?)
  2. What do you know about it? (Что вы знаете о моей стране?)
  3. What countries have you been to? Which countries did you enjoy the most and why? (В каких странах вы бывали? Какие страны вам понравились больше всего и почему?)
  4. What made you decide to seek a partner abroad? (Что заставило вас принять решение искать партнера за границей?)
  5. What are 3 most important qualities you want to find in your future partner? (Какие 3 самых важных качества вы хотите найти в своем будущем партнере?)
  6. What do you think are 3 most important qualities of your character? (Какие 3 качества вашего характера вы считаете самыми важными?)
  7. How long have you been using this dating site? (Как долго вы пользуетесь этим сайтом знакомств?)
  8. What is your feeling about men you have met on this site? (Какое чувство у вас о мужчинах с этого сайта?)
  9. Do you have a computer at home or use your mobile phone to send emails and login to the site? (Есть ли у вас компьютер дома или вы пользуетесь вашим мобильным телефоном, чтобы получать письма и заходить на сайт?)
  10. I am sending you some recent photos of myself I made this week, can you send me some new photos of yours? (Я посылаю вам свои фото, которые я сделал на этой неделе, могли бы вы послать мне свои новые фото?)
  11. What do your family members think about your trying to find a partner abroad? Are they OK with your moving abroad? (Что ваша семья думает о том, что вы пытаетесь найти партнера за границей? Они не против, что вы переедете жить за границу?)
  12. Do you have a pet? What are you going to do with the pet if you meet a man you like and decide to move to his country? (Есть ли у вас домашний питомец? Что вы будете с ним делать, если вы встретите мужчину и решите переехать в его страну?)
  13. If 2 people like each other, how soon do you think they should meet after talking online? (Если 2 человека понравятся друг другу, как долго, вы думаете, им стоит общаться онлайн прежде, чем встретиться лично?)
  14. Do you think it’s better to communicate with several people at the same time or concentrate on 1 person you like the most? (Как вы считаете, лучше общаться с несколькими людьми или сконцентрироваться на 1 человеке, который вам больше всего нравится?)
  15. What is your current job like? What do you do during your working day? (Что представляет из себя ваша работа? Что вы делаете в течение рабочего дня?)
  16. Tell me about your usual weekday, what do you do before and after work? (Что вы делаете до и после работы в обычные рабочие дни?)
  17. What do you usually do on weekends? (Что вы обычно делаете по выходным?)
  18. Do you have a lot of family and relatives living nearby? What kind of people they are? (Как много родственников и членов вашей семьи живут поблизости от вас? Что они из себя представляют как люди?)
  19. Have you ever moved or lived all your life in the same place? (Вы когда-нибудь переезжали или всегда жили в одном и том же месте?)
  20. Did you think about moving to another country? Do you think it will be easy or hard for you to do it? (Думали ли вы о переезде в другую страну? Как вы думаете, вам будет легко или тяжело это сделать?)
  21. What do you think a husband and a wife roles are in a marriage? (Как вы думаете, какие роли у мужа и жены в браке?)
  22. Which tasks around the house do you enjoy doing the most? (Какие домашние обязанности вам больше всего по душе?)
  23. What is your favourite dish? Do you have your own special recipe? (Какое ваше самое любимое блюдо? Есть ли у вас свой особый рецепт?)
  24. What do you do for fun? How often do you do it? (Чем вы занимаетесь для удовольствия? Как часто вы это делаете?)
  25. Have any of your friends or acquaintances married foreigners? (Есть ли у вас подруги или знакомые, которые вышли замуж за иностранцев?)
  26. If you had no problems with money, where would you go for your dream vacation? Why? What would you do? (Если бы у вас не было проблем с деньгами, куда бы вы хотели поехать в отпуск? Почему? Что бы вы там делали?)
  27. Have you ever been married or lived together with someone? What happened in that relationship and why did you separate? (Были ли вы когда-то замужем или жили с кем-то вместе? Что случилось в этих отношениях и почему вы расстались?)
  28. Are your parents still together? What kind of a relationship they have today? (Ваши родители все еще вместе? Какие у них сейчас отношения?)
  29. If you have found a good man and married him, and moved abroad, would you want to stay at home or have a job outside the house? (Если вы найдете хорошего мужчину для брака и переедете жить к нему, вы хотите быть домохозяйкой или найти работу вне дома?)
  30. What is your favourite thing to do in life? (Что вы любите делать больше всего в жизни?)
  31. Who did you dream to become when you were a child? (Кем вы мечтали стать в детстве?)
  32. How many close friends do you have? What kind of people they are? (Как много у вас друзей? Что они за люди?)
  33. Do you consider yourself and extrovert or introvert? Why? (Вы считаете, что вы экстраверт или интраверт? Почему?)
  34. What are your dreams and plans for the future? (О чем вы мечтаете? Какие у вас планы на будущее?)
  35. Do you read a lot? What was the last book you have read? (Много ли вы читаете? Последняя книга, что вы прочли?)
  36. Why do you think people struggle so much to find a partner? (Почему, как вы думаете, людям так непросто найти партнера?)
  37. What do you think are your 3 most annoying habits? (Как вы думаете, какие 3 ваши привычки самые раздражающие?)
  38. Would you prefer to live in a capital or a regional town? Why? (Хотели бы вы жить в столице или региональном городе? Почему?)
  39. Do you love the city where you live? What do you enjoy the most about it? (Любите ли вы ваш город, где вы живете? Что вам больше всего в нем нравится?)
  40. Do you want to have more children? How many? (Хотите ли вы иметь еще детей? Сколько?)
  41. Do you think parents should talk to the kids about sex? At what age? (Думаете ли вы, что родители должны говорить со своими детьми о сексе? В каком возрасте?)
  42. Are you religious? (Насколько вы религиозны?)
  43. If it’s OK for me to ask, what is your monthly salary? (Если вы позволите мне спросить, сколько составляет ваша месячная зарплата?)
  44. Do you enjoy physical exercise? What do you enjoy the most? (Нравится ли вам заниматься физическими упражнениями? Чем вам нравится заниматься больше всего?)
  45. What are you doing now to learn English? (Что вы сейчас делаете, чтобы выучить английский?)
  46. Do you watch a lot of TV? What kind of programs? (Смотрите ли вы много телевидения? Какие программы?)
  47. What things would you like to achieve in your lifetime? (Чего вы хотите достичь в своей жизни?)
  48. If you could meet any famous person, who would you want to meet and what would you talk to them about? (Если бы вы могли встретить любого знаменитого человека, кого бы вы хотели встретить и о чем поговорить?)
  49. Do you have a special talent? Something everyone tells you are amazing at? (Есть ли у вас особый талант? Что-то, о чем все вам говорят, у вас получается замечательно?)
  50. How do you usually celebrate your birthday and The New Year’s Eve? (Как вы обычно справляете свой день рождения и Новый Год?)
  51. Do you have a drivers license and a car? (Есть ли у вас водительские права и машина?)
  52. If you could choose 1 skill you could learn now, what would it be? (Если бы вы могли выбрать что-то одно, чему бы вы хотели научиться?)
  53. Do you get angry when having arguments? (Сердитесь ли вы при ссорах?)
  54. What are 3 things that you dislike in men the most? (Какие 3 вещи вам не нравятся в мужчинах больше всего?)
  55. What are 3 things you would like to change about yourself? (Какие 3 вещи вы хотели бы больше всего изменить в себе?)
  56. Are there any things or places you would really love to see or do in your lifetime? (Есть ли какие-то вещи, которые вы бы хотели сделать, или места, которые вы хотели бы посетить в течение своей жизни?)
  57. What daily or weekly activities are very important to you in your life? (Какие ежедневные или еженедельные активности очень важны для вас в вашей жизни?
  58. What do you think about me? (Что вы думаете обо мне?)


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i enjoy reading these blogs and think they are certainly interesting, helpful and imformative


Online dating websites have been reviewed for better understanding of the users. Elena’s is top-of-the-list. Thanks for the tips. OH, and in my opinion, telling the answer to a question first, then asking it, is the best approach.


Hi Elena, this is a good guideline of questions to ask. And I agree that it’s best to ask their opinions and answers first without clouding their judgement with yours. Thanks for the guidance.

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Great information! Very interesting and learned a few things!


I can appreciate, Elena, that this website would rather stay clear of any political opinions, but recent experience has indicated to me that there should be a 59th question. I found myself on the receiving end of a scathing rant when, in general conversation regarding the current political climate in Ukraine, I was critical of the Russian leader.
Political views can be every bit as dividing as religious ones during the formulation of a new relationship.
Opinions welcome.


Can the girl comment this ?
All questions are very good and give to a man a lots of information, but some strange mans put all them together in couple of letters, so it’s all look like interview;))))


Thank you so much for the guide lines very helpful.
What is funny I ask some of the question already.


Hi can you help me? I have been talking to a lady from Odessa for a few weeks now, I have booked a holiday to go to Odessa to meet her, if she meets me great if not ?????? what I would like to know is would it be ok to travel and stay in Odessa on my own, I always travel alone, Cuba etc and I have never had any problems doing so. What are the risks and problems I could encounter not having been to Odessa before, is it safe? do people speak English, for example if I… Read more »

I wasn’t sure about the blog and particular this collection of questions. Now I can say they make sense and go easily in more detail than my own. I know now better which ones to ask and how. Thanks EM!

Elena, I compliment you on your ‘guide of questions to ask Russian and Ukrainian women when dating’. It will prove to be useful, I am sure. I wish I had these when I was going to Kiev a few years ago (2010) or when a few of the ladies came over to the US to visit me (2005). It would have been very helpful either time. I am still looking. I have a plan to go to Crimea in the fall if all continues to go well. I am concerned about the politics of it all. My background is NOT… Read more »

Nice list of questions. It helpes men to understand women’s mysterious Russian soul. It allowes to know more about their lives, their previous relationships and helps to know what do they love or do not love, and it will help to build new relationships. I would recommended these questions to my friends.


hi Elena some great questions here and i will use them all i expect. i have one question why do all ukrainian/russian women love flowers so much? is this tradition or is it likely that its just the girls i speak too?


All very great questions to consider. Question # 14 I think is very tricky. Having traveled to Kiev in December of 2013 (a very interesting time), I went through a marriage agency which set me up with 5 ladies that I had selected and that they agreed to meet with me. They all knew I was in Kiev to meet several women, but I wonder how they felt about it (I was hesitant to ask). As we all know, it is difficult to predict if 2 people will “click”, and it is easily a week’s investment of time and thousands… Read more »

What a great idea to publish the list of questiobs to discuss! It could be really usefull and help to start dating. Though it may be rather difficult for someone to answer honestly. It concerns questions about features of character and addictions.


Veery formal question!
It could be the most boring date ever! Isnt it better just to chat? Discuss your favourite music, movie or your job.
Relax and try to be attentive. This is the recipe for success.


Advice to use online translators sounds a bit funny. Do they really work properly? As for all the rest, thank you for useful and interesting stuff. Due to some of questions we can learn a prospective partner much more thoroughly than it may appear.


I do not understand why to use all these formalities. If you like a girl, and the girl like you, there is no need to learn this questionnaire. You just need to relax and enjoy the communication. It is the only way to achieve success in a relationships.


It’s not all the questions that you should ask the girl when you have a online dating. For example questions about last guys with whom the girl had relations. As a rule, it’s very important question, especially, when you on appointment to girls from Russia.


This is different. Young, pretty Russian girl is arranging to visit me in the US. We just met on line. She is paying for her air fair and only asks that I meet her plane.. She is emailing me lovey, dovey stuff. I’m thrilled but suspect a scam.


hello,I have just lost $10,000 NZ dollars to a Russian Woman, firstly she wanted Air Fare, so I sent that, secondly she wanted Via Support Money so I sent her$4900 NZ dollars, then at the Air Port she wanted more money, because she claimed that the Authorities wouldn’t let her leave the Country until her Credit owed on her Apartment was Paid.
So with that I requested that she send my Visa money back and she said that she had paid that on her Apartment.. so the relationship broke down .and I told her where to go.. Peter